Overcoming limiting beliefs is a matter of changing the way you think, in other words tweaking your subconscious.
Believe it or not, your subconscious plays such a huge roll in your attitude towards not only how you view or feel about yourself, but also the outcome of your successes.
As Henry Ford quoted:
“Whether you think you can or whether you think you can’t, you’re right.”
Limiting beliefs are often a result of something that has happened in your past. For example: (and I don’t share this too often) but when I was in… probably Grade 1, I had a teacher who was a royal “you know what”… All it took for this woman to explode was a sneeze from one of her students. I happened to drop a book that landed under a chair. I got down on my little 6 or 7 year old knees to retrieve this book and she yelled at the top of her lungs…”oh how I a SO SICK of you! You are an absolute useless child.” (Wow)…
I can remember feeling surprised, but perhaps at that young age, I didn’t think about it too deeply… but I never forgot it, and I’m sure if dampened my confidence and perhaps did play a small part in producing a few limiting beliefs.
As I grew older, I had a lot of friends and most of their parents absolutely LOVED me to go for a visit. This thankfully really perked my confidence level!
I began to feel quite good about myself…and I’m thankful that many of my limiting beliefs that teacher planted in my young mind were nullified.
I went on to achieve many of the goals I had set for myself, even to the point of setting a goal at the age of 17, to purchase (yes purchase) a home at the age of 18. This was such a huge feat, but really it all boiled down to me telling myself it was possible, and simply taking the steps to make it happen.
So what changed? The answer: Absolutely ‘nothing’ on the outside… however my inner thoughts allowed me to move forward with confidence. In other words, my successes were purely due to what I “thought” (and knew) were possible.
Positive thought processes, work for everyone. Many athletes either succeed or fail due to their belief system. The ones who do well are ones who program their subconscious to believe than anything is possible. The ones who don’t last really have not built up the confidence level to truly believe they can win or excel at their chosen sport.
Sure things in life happen from time to time that can really shake your ego and confidence. We just have to “suck it up” and move forward.
I believe that if you are a person who believes you have something to offer… and I AM SURE YOU DO, there is no reason why you can’t achieve whatever it is you set out to do.
We all have positives and negatives. We simply have to choose to eliminate all negative thoughts about ourselves and choose to focus on our positives.
Choosing to let go of the things that bring you down, and grip on to the things that lift you up, has a huge impact on your daily outlook and how you feel about your abilities.
Here’s another little tale while I am at it… and it sounds a bit “nutso”… however when I was going through my divorce I never felt so horrible about myself and life in general. I felt guilty about letting my family down, viewed myself as a failure, looked like a sack of nerves, lost a tonne of weight and was on the verge of tears daily.
I tended to ignore the fact that I had been part of building a successful ‘offline’ business, as well as I paid no thought to what I had achieved in other ways.
At the time I worked with my husband as we still ran our business together. My ex husband had a real mean streak and at one point told me that the only reason we had succeeded in our business was because I had ‘ridden’ on his coat tails.
Even though I knew this was far from the truth, I ‘allowed’ it to hurt me to the point that I though that if someone who once loved me could say such a thing (as well as many other insults) perhaps it was true and I really was a waste of space.
One day I was in the office and a customer came in to make a purchase and as I was ringing it in, he talked to me in such a way that I spilled the beans on my heartaches. (Perhaps he sensed my heaviness). I know it sounds a little whacky, but I felt so down about myself… I just couldn’t help it and probably needed someone with a kind ear to talk to… even if it was a complete stranger!
He told me t hat his wife was a counsellor and that she had a method that worked well to help people acknowledge their positives, feel better and heal, and most importantly…overcome limiting beliefs.
He told me that every day I should look in the mirror and say “everything in every way gets better and better every day” and to also reaffirm my validity by telling myself that I am capable of anything as I always have been.
I started to do this daily and throw in a few other lines that solidified my value. The results were amazing!
So… again whether you think you can, or you can’t, you are probably right.
So if you are feeling held back, simply re-program your subconscious and your thoughts about your abilities. Continue to work on yourself, move forward to achieve your goals, and before too long you will have overcome your limiting beliefs to move forward and achieve whatever it is you desire to live a more confident and successful life.