Is The Fear of Failure Holding You Back?

by Jayne Kopp on June 11, 2010

Is the fear of failure holding you back from doing something you really want to do?

Sadly, you are more the ‘norm’ than the exception to this rule. Many people have goals, personal, financial or simply a longing to try something new, but due to the uncertainly of how reach said goals they brush it off and consequently succumb to the fear of failure and do nothing at all.

This is where the old saying comes in “nothing ventured, nothing gained” (How true!)

The truth is… everything is worth trying if it’s something you dream about. Sure, it may hold a 50/50 chance of success vs. failure… but what doesn’t? Whether you’re applying for a new job, a mortgage, or trying out for a sports team, etc…it all involves trying something different, moving forward and taking action! More often than not the positives far outweigh the negatives!

I have friends who are ‘afraid’ (yes afraid!) of painting a room in their home!! Lord knows why!! I mean what’s the worst that can happen? You don’t like the colour, you try another shade! Nobody dies!! And…If its the transformation you envisioned..you beat your chest with pride!!!

There are people who really want to learn to skate… or horseback ride… or sing but deprive themselves of such experiences because they’re afraid of a negative outcome!

In my line of work, I talk to people regularly who want to work from home, or join an online business opportunity so badly, yet are afraid of stepping out there and putting forth the effort in case ‘it’ doesn’t work.

It’s unfortunate to prevent yourself from ‘trying’ something that could prove to be one of the most life enriching experiences, personally and financially and holds an immediate 50% chance of success!!

Though it also holds a 50% chance of failure its no different than anything else in life. I tell my children all the time that failure isn’t necessarily a bad thing as much can be learned by not succeeding the first time, it creates an opportunity for improvement and a chance to perfect the next effort.

A way to put the fear of failure into perspective is simply to ask yourself what’s the worst that can happen?

You won’t die, and if common sense prevails you won’t invest your last red penny, so you likely won’t go broke either.

Sure, you may lose some time, but if you’ve used the time wisely and given something your best effort, you’ve probably learned something along the way. At least by opening up to new experiences you’ve done something more than settle for the mediocrity of a sitting duck!

I cant count the number of calls I’ve had from people pondering my business opportunity & desperate for positive change, only to ponder so much until they conjured up so many ‘what if’s’ and sadly done nothing at all! Occasionally, Months later some manage to overcome the fear of failure and take the leap of faith & do well only to regret they didn’t take action the first time around.

The truth is, you are a powerful human! You may not always know it or give yourself the credit, but you do have something to offer! Everybody does. You just need to crush the fear of failure and overcome your limiting beliefs.

You might be reading this post because there is something inside of you that wants more!?

Live your life and don’t deprive yourself of what it has to offer because you are worried about what “might” happen… because it also might not!

If at first you don’t succeed… try, try, again.

Open up to new experiences and overcome the fear of failure! You might find it’s the best move you ever made!!

If you do what you’ve always done, you’ll get what you’ve always gotten! (Tony Robbins).

So…what are you waiting for?

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jacquie June 12, 2010 at 10:37 am

Good post Jayne! All very good advice. Think I’ll take it myself ;)

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