Every cloud has a silver lining and today I’m doing my best to focus on the silver lining with vigour! Actually, I usually do, but as a human, I’ve had ups and downs just like everyone else. Today I’m focusing on turning lemons to lemonade and believing that most things happen for a reason.
You see, I have a great life! I am thankful for everything I have. I love my kids, I have a wonderful significant other who loves me & I love, plus he spoils me & the kids rotten! I have a loving family, a huge number of ‘true’ friends, a comfortable home & wonderful community to live in.
I also have wonderful internet business that allows me to help others to make some fantastic life changes, both personally and financially,to focus on the bright side of life and go forward to set and meet goals! I can’t ask for much more!!
But, like everyone else I am human. (I guess that’s a good thing... :-) ) but today is a bit of a challenge: You see…18 years ago, I walked down the aisle to my then groom and best friend, so today is in actuality my anniversary. Thing is…… I’m not married anymore. So instead of going out to celebrate, I am at home… alone. My children are with their dad… I’m house cleaning instead! (That’s probably a good thing too... the house needs it! ;-)).
So I wander through the house, mop in hand, vacuum in the other, and it seems today that everything I look at reminds me of something from my past. The tiles that I'm scrubbing remind me of the time we chose them together. As I scrub the little finger marks off the wall, I remember choosing the paint. As I dust off a print, I remember buying it together.
One thought leads to another and I realize how many things were learned and experienced. Too many to fit in a book for sure!
Even though we’ve had rifts, and not so nice rifts at that, a person can’t help but feel a void… and because I’m human, (as I keep trying to convince you:-)) I’m a little sad today.
So what do I do? I suck it up! I turn on the vacuum (I know… groan ) I choose to focus on the positives. I decide not to dissect my “what IFS” but I CHOOSE to analyze the “what IS”; I choose to bring my gratitude to the surface and I realize the following.
** Because of my heartache and the painful split, I chose to stay at home with my children, which I would have never done otherwise.
**Also, because I met my ex DH I have my two beautiful kids!
**Because we met, I experienced a lot … we both did. We learned and experienced thousands of things we wouldn’t have done without each other. WE grew, grew a great business (which is why I can stay home) we grew together and then grew apart. There were certainly lots of positives… I guess that’s why the saying goes “some people come into our life for a reason, others for a season. I believe in my case both are true.
Back to my silver lining: Because I now stay at home, I‘ve built my online business and have met hundreds of people in the process. Because of my business, I have been able to help many people get started and have mentored others with suggestions and advice.
I’ve made friends and I am involved in a wonderful community of supporters. (I would have never experienced any of this either!)
Because of my business and the valuable life lessons it teaches, I’ve grown. I’ve also changed. Mostly for the better. It’s made me stronger and more powerful. It’s helped me see things in a different light. It’s helped me set and reach goals.
Its taught me that life does have its way of throwing curves sometimes but it’s up to you to focus on the positives, make the most out of each day.
If you’ve met me today, maybe it’s for a reason. Maybe it’s so I can help you with the next season of your life. Maybe you need to grow, overcome and move forward like I did.
The point I’m trying to make is you should always look for the underling reasons why some things happen. Choose to make lemonade from lemons, do something incredible that you may not do otherwise, and remember that every cloud has a silver lining.
Remember we all have challenges, heartaches from time to time, so always be kind. You never know what is going on in the lives of others or what they are facing.
Always be grateful for the people you meet, the people in your life and the people from your past. Take lessons learned and share them with others and make some life changes. They may be in your life for a reason, but maybe…only for a season.
I’m thankful to you for reading my Blog. I’m thankful for my beautiful kids, my family and Johnny. I’m also thankful for all my wonderful friends from the past and the present. Though saddened, I’m also thankful to my ex DH although he probably will never know.
None the less, I still want to thank the people from my past, so to my ex DH: Thanks for the memories and the seasons we shared. I learned a lot from you. I hope somewhere you might secretly feel the same. Happy anniversary… so to speak. You’re obviously on my mind.
I’ll be glad to get through today, but I’m thankful for it; and because every cloud has a silver lining, I know that it’s been a good day of reflection for me and that tomorrow will be easier. I’m continuing to focus on all the positives of life and I’m glad for the gift of being here to do so!
What cloud are you grateful for? Leave a comment and lets compare silver linings!