New Years Resolutions or New Life Re-Solutions

by Jayne Kopp on January 5, 2011

New Years Re-solution!
While I suppose I have my New Years Resolution decided upon, I prefer to look upon it/them as “revised solutions” or “re-solutions’ for new life changes starting this New Year.

It took me a while to whittle down what my ‘re-solution’ would be this year, as so many changes have occurred these last five years or so.

I think it takes me a bit longer to dot my ‘i’s and cross my ‘t’s because I’m not the kind of person who can shove things in a drawer (physically) in order for things to be out of sight and out of mind – and I’m kind of like that mentally too – so before diving in and formulating a new layer of ideas on top of the old ones – I like to analyze, scrutinize and categorize things. In other words I can’t seem to bid the old year goodbye before clearing the cobwebs from the corners of my mind. (I know I sound like a real nutter by now). :-|

I haven’t always been like this… when I was younger I kinda skipped through life and things just fell into place tickety-boo. Futhermore, the part I find almost laughable is that I saw no need for personal improvement back then either. It’s not that I was pompous or had an overwhelming share of self confidence (not at all)… I simply never gave it a thought.

It’s only since I hit my 40s that I started being a deeper thinker, and saw all the many ‘opportunities for improvement’ that I never saw before. Sometimes I wonder if it’s a good thing or not. :-)

You see, in my previous life, I did “ok-ish” at school, graduated, got a decent job, bought my house, met my husband, started a great offline business (did well in that too). I then had two later in life surprises (my beautiful kids) … then the “schnitzel hit the fan” and things all of a sudden looked very different.

In the blink of an eye, I was divorced, had two babies in diapers; I’d sold my business shares and I felt like I was sitting in amongst a pile of un-assembled Lego not knowing what to construct or even where to start.

In 2007/08 I started my online entrepreneurial journey as a brand new babe in the woods knowing nothing about the internet, only sending and receiving emails. I ploughed through 2008 filling my tiny noggin with as much knowledge as it would hold and doing my best to put it into practice.

2008/09 I saw some successes in many areas but more importantly in the area of self growth; that’s likely why I chose this personal development business niche. Maybe it was a maturity thing… I’m not sure… but it sure helped propel and prepare me for the changes in 2010.

2010 in itself was a year of change. I started my blog in addition to my existing websites. I met a medley of awesome online friends. I also achieved many goals, but certainly not to the extent I had hoped.

There have been times for celebration, and times of immense personal heartache… but most of all and thankfully… I’m ok with it.

Still, at the end of 2010, I needed to weed out the good from the not so good in order to figure out what to keep, toss and how to construct my New Years Resolutions – or ‘New Life Re-Solutions’ to work on in 2011.

Finally I think I have a handle on it… so…

My lessons from last year are as follows:

  • Each and every one of us makes a difference. I personally found tremendous comfort in making a difference and helping a few more people get started with their goals. I made good progress building my marketing training site for my partners (or anyone else who needs a hand even though there’s still more to be done).
  • I also realized I still have a lot to learn but as mentioned, in 2010 – have found life long friendships with people who I know are there for me. (It’s awesome and thanks!) I know there are many more steps to be taken but have truly appreciated the help many of you have given me.
  • I have always known, and it has been solidified in 2010 that we are all capable of achieving any goal we wish. Each and every one of us is capable of enjoying a life well lived if we simply ‘decide’ to learn and apply… and of course never give up.
  • We all have … and need to shed our limiting beliefs from time to time. In other words simply ‘karate chop’ the mind chatter that deflates our confidence. (If you suffer from this occasionally… you’re normal!)
  • We can’t always ‘get over’ the past nor can we change it. We can however keep things in the past and make new life changes to fill old voids, realize valuable lessons learned and move on with a positive outlook. What’s more…we shouldn’t sweat the petty stuff… and most things are just that.
  • Always turn lemons to lemonade and look for the silver lining in everything,

    Stay focused on your goals. Work hard, have fun, success will follow.

    Always remember to be kind, help others wherever possible. You don’t do this with the intention of ‘getting it back’… but it naturally comes back. It is a beautiful thing that just ‘happens’.

    Regardless of your dreams…. Take massive action on your goals. We are all responsible for our own results… and we all have the power to change.

    You only fail if you quit!

    (Phew)….

    My New Years Resolution – or New Life Re-Solutions(s) are:

  • To take Massive focused action on my goals.
  • Maintain my old and new friendships (online and offline)
  • Have a little more fun and not take life so seriously… I still need to learn to live more in the moment!
  • Help as many people as possible make the changes they need (regardless of their goals)
  • ***Let go of the past, remember I can’t ‘change it’ nor can I change others, I can only change myself. Some things have to be what they will be… even if I disagree. (That rhimes! Just sayin :-) )
  • Put myself out there more… be more visible. (I only learned the value of this in 2010)
  • Learn to dance like nobody’s looking (or even scarier… when they are!) ;-)

    I think the most beneficial focus for me is to not let the past drag me down like it did last year. I’m determined to move from it, even though part of my heart will remain there in a number of ways. If I had a nickel for all the hours I’ve wasted sweating over stupid things….urggh let’s not go there I’m sure you get the picture!

    So why am I telling you all this?

    Simple really: … it feels good to get it out… it will make more sense to some (they know who they are)… than others – but also because I read a report on Wikipedia that women tend to meet their goals by making them public… so thanks for bearing (suffering) with me through this post.

    On a genuine positive note (after all that)…I’m looking forward to a new beginning, shedding some heartaches and making a happy noise out there. I know I can do a better job and I’m hoping you’ll come along with me for the ride. (Fasten your seatbelts… whooo hooo what a ride it will be)

    So 2010 … I think we’re officially done and I now bid you farewell! It’s been a slice… some good

    …. and some I would like to kick you in the woofer for…

    but that being said…. I look forward to the new and exciting possibilities from this point forward.

    To my thousands of readers… (Not!… Well… not YET anyway)… There’s a good chance I’ll be soliciting your assistance and advice… and I’ll be there for you too in order to help you with your New Years Resolutions / New Life Re-Solutions whenever you need a leg up!

    Thanks to everyone for your support, kind words and suggestions throughout 2010.

    What did you learn last year and what would you like to change this year? I’d love to hear your thoughts (and hear about some of your cobwebs) Shed them below it’ll do you good… I’ll sweep up after you’re done!!

  • { 6 comments… read them below or add one }

    Stacy January 7, 2011 at 2:11 pm

    Jayne,

    You’ve got some great re-solutions for the new year and some powerful lessons from last year.

    Last year was a year of growth, challenges and blessings. I’ve got many goals for the new year so that I can continue to learn and grow.

    Happy new year!
    Stacy

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    Jayne Kopp January 9, 2011 at 11:57 pm

    Hey Stacy, Thanks so much for stopping by. One of these days we will catch up with each other again. Soon I hope.

    It’s nice when you can learn something (or a few things) during the year. It seems to add clout to our goals somehow. Besides, life wouldn’t be as exciting if we didn’t learn a few new things now and then! Hope all is well! ~Jayne~

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    Susanna Hess@Video Branding January 5, 2011 at 3:16 pm

    Wow Jayne,

    I enjoyed reading this. I learned a lot in 2010 as well. Whew, what a whirlwind of a year! ;)

    I love your “new life re-solutions”. One of mine is to put more time into “money making” activities and less into “busy work” activities. There sure is a difference!

    Thank you for opening up and sharing this with your thousands of readers. ;) I hear ya girl!

    Susanna

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    Jayne Kopp January 6, 2011 at 6:36 am

    Hi Susanna, Thanks for popping by. You are amongst the new friends made last year and thank for all you do. I totally appreciate your goal to re-shift your work efforts. There comes a time and I think I’m there with you on that too. In the meantime, let’s both keep ‘dancing’ and look forward to what this year has in store! ~Jayne~

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    Gordie January 5, 2011 at 2:42 pm

    Seems like you’ve got 2011 well planned out. I hope it all goes well for you and that you move forward each day courageously.

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    Jayne Kopp January 5, 2011 at 3:32 pm

    Hey Gordie, Thanks so much for stopping by. Thanks also for the well wishes. I nipped over to your blog to have a brief gander and will return as soon as I have my children settled. I have a neat move I was/am planning to share about ‘eating that frog’ from Simple Truths – all about procrastination. You may have seen it but I’ll send you the link later. Thanks for coming. Jayne

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