Do you like yourself?
This might sound like a bit of a peculiar question… but the more I though about it, the more I had to ask the question!
To be up front, there are a few reasons I’m prompted to write on this topic; they are as follows:
I truly believe that a lot of success rides on how much you like yourself. I’m not talking about being pompous, conceited or big headed (at all); but if you’re striving to make changes or achieve goals, personal belief in your abilities and value can carry you far.
For many of us in the online network marketing industry, personal development and implementing the law of attraction is essential, and if you don’t like yourself it’s doubtful you’ll be positively driven not to mention have the ability to send the right vibration. On further thought… the same goes regardless of industry or situation in life.
Secondly, I also had the urge to write on this topic due to participating in the proveit2011 challenge and admittedly I’m almost inclined to turn just about everything into a blog post…it’s just the way I roll these days! Today the light bulb moment was while sorting some old files; I came across a poem I was taught by my grade seven teacher “Mrs. Clark”.
The funny thing is… I never forgot this poem and I can clearly remember her telling us how to be conscience free and the importance of actually liking yourself.
I truly admire my teachers’ insight for teaching it to us. She’d probably be thrilled if she knew the impact of this poem as well as many of the other things she did to make a difference in our young lives – not to mention the fact that I have hung on to it all these years.
This Poem is is an oldie – but a goodie… and I think that if we can all ‘try’ to live by it, ‘liking yourself’ could be a whole lot easier. Here it is:
Myself: (Edgar A Guest)
I have to live with myself and so
I want to be fit for myself to know.
I want to be able as days go by,
always to look myself straight in the eye;
I don’t want to stand with the setting sun
and hate myself for the things I have done.
I don’t want to keep on a closet shelf
a lot of secrets about myself
and fool myself as I come and go
into thinking no one else will ever know
the kind of person I really am,
I don’t want to dress up myself in sham.
I want to go out with my head erect
I want to deserve all men’s respect;
but here in the struggle for fame and wealth
I want to be able to like myself.
I don’t want to look at myself and know that
I am bluster and bluff and empty show.
I never can hide myself from me;
I see what others may never see;
I know what others may never know,
I never can fool myself and so,
whatever happens I want to be
self respecting and conscience free.
I find this poem so inspirational and sets a very good example of living well.
With that said, I know from experience, it’s a pretty tall order … and it’s not always easy to be proud of our actions and actually like ourselves all the time.
I for one, have fallen short on a few occasions and sat in the setting sun beating myself up for the things I’ve done! Sometimes I’ve felt like kicking my own backside around the block and back!
I have discovered by meeting new people, there are not too many who haven’t dropped at least one almighty clanger during the journey through life; sadly however, I have met so many who can’t let go.
I was one of them for a while to be honest, due to the standards and morals I’ve set – only to fall short. Thankfully I came to grips with the fact that you can’t change the past and we can only do our best to look at any shortfalls or regrets as opportunities for improvement … rather than boat anchors.
Being in the personal development industry has helped me realize many things… but also to go a little easier on myself… and encourage others to do the same.
Speaking of others, as an internet marketer … I’ve met many awesome people from each corner of the world. I have to admit, I always admire those who share some of their less than proud moments with us… it makes them seem more human therefore goes a long way in relationship building….and… I don’t feel so lonely!!
Bottom line here… I’m not suggesting you’re not cutting the mustard if you can’t say the poem paints your portrait… what I’m suggesting is you/we take can use the poem as a reminder of the right way to be.
If there’s something getting in your way or throwing a spanner in your self esteem, my advice to you is to perhaps use this guideline. Go through the verses and pinpoint the areas you’d like to improve.
On the flip-side I’m sure you will also uncover much of your value and may also remind you of the many things you’re doing right!
Just remember liking yourself is important; not only is it a definite asset to your moral and performance but it shines through positively. After all, if you don’t like you it’s pretty difficult to expect anyone else to!