Rate Your Level of Satisfaction!
How are you in the personal satisfaction department? In other words, are you completely happy and content with where you’re at right now…or do you yearn for something more?
As the years have passed and I have more experience under my belt, I’ve really had my eyes opened to the fact that so many of us do not feel we are 100% pleased with where we are at.
We are not all miserable, but there are things we would improve upon if we could.
Sometimes we throw out a handful of things we would change, but never really hunker down to dissect exactly what needs to improve and how we’d go about it in a clear and concise fashion.
More often than not in this day and age, our disappointments (if you will), are usually tied to lack of time and money, which in turn holds us from achieving personal satisfaction and fulfillment .
After all a shortage of time prevents us from doing many of the things we would like, but in order to have more time, having more money helps.
This is not always true, but most of the people I talk to on this topic are working a JOB, and have no choice to continue in order to make ends meet; however being away from the home and family during the prime hours, each and every day bites into our time in a big way.
Of course there are other elements to personal satisfaction, or lack thereof.
Sometimes we have experienced something in our past that holds us back from being quite as happy as we would like. Occasionally, we are dissatisfied with personal choices we ourselves have made, we lack confidence or would like to improve personally in other ways.
Though there are some things that our completely out of our control, most situations can be remedied.
Much has to do with our attitude and mindset, but also our willingness to take the bull by the horns and set out to make improvements.
If there is one thing I’ve realized is that life is very short. None of us know from one moment to the next what could happen.
I’m not trying to sound over the top or dismal here at all, but with that said there is a lot to be said for living in the moment and living life to the fullest.
It’s hard to do, I must admit, but at the end of the day, why not enjoy the ride and fix what needs a tune up in between while we can.
Each and every one of us deserves to be happy, even though mind chatter and limiting beliefs can often hold us hostage to thinking otherwise, or worse that we can’t be, when in fact this couldn’t be further from the truth.
One of the best ways to determine what is holding you back from achieving personal satisfaction is to be “still”. Simply be determined to take some time out, spend some quiet time alone and, with pen or pencil in hand (yes the old fashioned way) 
, make a list of the things you’d like to improve.
Don’t just scratch things down to fill the pad, really pay attention and be dedicated to listening to your innermost thoughts. Make this time count.
If the challenges are from the past, or past relationships, pin point their exact nature.
If the hurdles are within the present, i.e. current relationships, job, lack of time, money, or self esteem or personal flaws. Do the same.
If you are worried or concerned about the future, write down your exact concerns. I.e.: Retirement, kid’s university costs, etc.
This is only the first step in getting yourself on track, but it’s a great start and I can almost guarantee that once you have actually taken the time to do this exercise and actually pinpoint the barriers, you will start to feel relief.
Furthermore, you might also realize that things are not always as huge as they seem.
In my next post I’ll share a few suggestions to dissect this list further to help you determine the next steps in achieving personal satisfaction.
What is holding you back from achieving utmost personal satisfaction? I’d love to hear your experiences below!
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Wow great article and great insight on satisfaction. As far as i know no one is satisfied because the desire does not let me him to make satisfies.
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Vivek, that is very true, however we must also remain conscious of this and fix the important things in order to feel satisfied yet not let our selves become inconsolable and always feeling we ‘need’ something else. It is a fine line, and perhaps I will write a blog post on it.
Usually there are things that we feel are really holding us back. These need attention to achieve happiness. If we catch ourselves never being grateful for being in the moment because we always want more and have an unquenchable thirst it can become a problem.
again, fine line between feeling satisfied and happy and being too ambitious.
Thanks for your comment. What you bring up is very true and should be recognized!
Jayne
Hi Jayne,
I love these deep and powerful insights. If we aren’t able to enjoy the ride, life won’t be very fulfilling because we are only living for a few highlights.
How many highlights, on the other hand, are just the beginning of a journey, a new ride ? For example getting married and the birth of child. Everybody’s excited about the event but what does it really mean ?
My relationship is satisfaction is a bit ambivalent. In my notion, it comes from the outside while happiness comes from the inside. There’s nothing good or bad with either of them, we only should know that satisfaction from the outside is always short-term, so we need the next “kick” sooner or later.
Eventually, we can’t be without both happiness and satisfaction.
Is it far fetched to say that it’s the same with love and sex ? If these two emotions blend, in Napoleon Hill’s terms, we can even transmute their energy into “higher planes”.
If we are able to blend happiness and satisfaction, we will prevent us from becoming saturated.
Take care
Oliver
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Hi Oliver, I love how you share the way to look at things and bring so many different analogies to the table. You always make me think about things in additional ways.
Thanks so much for your comment as always. Its a pleasure to see you once again! ~Jayne~
Hi Jayne,
What a great question. It’s one that we must ask regularly and understand that we are the only ones who can do something to change this.
Personally I learned the hard way over many years that the reason why I never felt satisfied was because I did not believe sub consciously that I deserved to be satisfied.
Once I had identified this very self limiting belief I could set about working on it. It remains an ongoing challenge for me but I am pleased to say that I am much better with this now.
Thank you for reminding us that we deserve to be satisfied and that we can when we tale responsibility for doing so.
~Marcus
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Hi Marcus, you and I seem to have ridden in the same boat on a few occasions.
I think overcoming limiting beliefs and feeling deserving are things that need keeping at bay on a regular basis for many people. Me included although I too am much better.
Its funny, I never used to think about topics such as this one, but as I’ve experienced more of life, I’ve become a deeper thinker and it might be due to facing a few circumstances for the first time a few years ago.
I am glad I have also been able to come to the realization that overcoming limiting beliefs and feeling satisfied are both things that we can control, but like everything else in life, it takes work and attention.
Thanks for coming. Its nice to see your smiling face. You’re always on the phone it seems! ~Jayne~