Are You Satisfied With Life? | Part Two

by Jayne Kopp on March 4, 2011

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Are you satisfied with life? If not, but can’t quite put your finger on it, I’d suggest taking at look at my last post on Personal Satisfaction

I suggested taking time out to make a list of the things you feel might be holding you back from fulfillment.

You may have noticed I insisted on taking quiet time to make this list and there is good reason for that! Being still and quiet is absolutely necessary!

I know from personal experience life has a way of getting in the way. We fly around like farts in gloves, trying to get through the day being everything to every body!

We have a thousand and one things buzzing through our minds all at the same time and rarely spend any time with our own thoughts.

Even though we know there are roadblocks preventing us from feeling free, we don’t always know EXACTLY what they are because we just don’t give ourselves time to think.

Using your time wisely to uncover these hidden challenges (sometimes not so hidden) gives you something to look at, and then determine the correct remedy. Besides, it’s pretty hard to fix something if you don’t know what’s broken.

If you now have your list in front of you, you may be pleasantly surprised that things often seem more manageable when you have them off your chest and onto paper. It somehow always results in a sense of relief.

Now you may have heard the saying that ‘nothing in life is for free’ and this holds true in this exercise too.

I would hope you’ll give me the benefit of the doubt here, and concur that if you are serious about making some changes that you’ll need to make an investment of a little time to do what needs to be done. You’ll also have to thicken your skin.

By uncovering the root causes of what’s holding you back from feeling satisfied, you can now decide how to go about improving your situation.

For example, If your challenges are from the past, i.e.: past relationship, personal disappointment, etc… you’re going to have to accept the fact that you can’t change it. You can however, think of ways to improve the situation from this point forward.

If personal disappointment makes you fret, don’t beat yourself up. You just have to let some things go, otherwise you’ll drive yourself dotty.

Trust me on this one… I’ve been there – done that. I wasted a lot of time playing my own violin and kicking myself for things in the past. It doesn’t help; in fact, it holds you back and diminishes your self worth and energy.

Thankfully, I came to my senses and chose the make both now and the future ten times better instead of wasting time and energy on what can’t be changed.

Anything else, failed relationships, missed opportunities just have to be accepted as well.

You just have to suck it up butter cup! I know it hurts to accept it, but I also know that you know!

Instead of dwelling on what’s already already happened, you’ll have to focus on making from now on in the ride of your life….or “get on with it” as my mom says!

Now if you’re dissatisfied with the here and now, in other words the “present”… here’s where the fun begins.

Why you ask?

Well… now you can start doing something about it!

If you’re worried about finances, lack of time, hate your job, now’s the time to say ‘lets get this show on the road’

With all the opportunities we have at our fingertips today, there is always something we can do.

The internet offers a plethora of low cost business ideas. I’m not saying this option is as easy as falling off a bike…you are going to have to roll up your sleeves like the rest of us, and know there are many people who earn a more than comfortable living this way.

If time is an issue and you’re married to your JOB, maybe it’s time for a change.

What? (You ask)

I know making these changes isn’t always easy, but again, you can choose to do something for yourself, or find another line of work.

Again, the purpose of this post is to build personal satisfaction, bearing in mind we only live once.

If that’s just not an option you might inquire whether you can alter your hours or work a few hours per week from home. Obviously these options are not possible for all people… but hey, if you don’t look at possible solutions, you’re basically accepting you’re stuck and can either stay in the same boat or look at alternatives.

The fact remains, that one way or the other, you will have to make time to create time.

I know when I first started working online, I would stay up ridiculously late to get things done. I can’t say I would wholeheartedly recommend this route (at least not as a regular gig)… as you will be ‘toast’ the next day and not much good to anyone… including you!

The other option is to get to bed early (in my case shortly after the kids were tucked it) and get up with the birds to capitalize on quiet time.

If your concerned about the future, i.e.: paying for your childrens future education, or purchasing a new home, shortage of cash, etc. then there is no time like the present to start working on a resolution for these issues too. There is absolutely no sense in waiting for time to fly by and have your issue creep up and clobber you when it’s too late.

If you feel to be at your wits end and have ideas, but no clue how to tackle certain things, it never hurts to bounce your ideas off others or reach out and ask for help. You might be amazed at the knowledge and savvy some people have that you’d never uncover unless you asked.

I’m not saying that making these changes will be easy… but if you really want to be on top of your game, you are going to have to be willing to roll up your sleeves, step up to the plate and do something.

Of course the alternative is to sit and wallow… and I guess that’s up to you! :-(

In my opinion, it makes no sense to be held captive in a life that brings no personal satisfaction or joy.

I think so often we make either make things complicated by over thinking on the fly and not taking the time to think with clarity, as well as we tend to take life so seriously and brainwash ourselves into thinking there’s not way out.

Just remember, the world is your oyster. By being clear on what you want in order to be satisfied in life, paves the way for you to take action on making improvements.

You have just as much chance of achieving anything you want in order to be satisfied with life as anyone else. We all have the ability to make choices and while we are still on this fine planet, there’s still time to do so.

If you’re stuck and feeling dissatisfied with life and need help gaining clarity, contact me. This is my specialty and I’d be pleased to offer guidance and suggestions!

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Jayne Kopp March 6, 2011 at 12:08 pm

HI again Vivek, yes, I know what you mean, but at least you realize this and you are working towards them.

Its important to “know” this and perhaps it might be a time to list them on paper to become very clear. Then continue taking the steps that you are and see if there are any ways you could improve and perhaps speed up the ‘goal reaching’ process.

I hear exactly what you are saying and I’ve found by taking my own advice in these last two posts, it really does help.

also, I would also like to mention, I know some of my ‘words’ in the content of this post were not showing up. I have been playing with font colors and some of my links became ‘white’ and disappeared into the background!. It’s fixed now. :-)

Thanks for your thoughtful comment. We have definite similarities!

Jayne

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Vivek Parmar March 6, 2011 at 12:00 am

Well i can say somehow i’m satisfied but still not. Still lots of dreams have not completed yet
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