If You Could Live Life Over, What Would You Change?

by Jayne Kopp on March 6, 2011

If you could live life over

If you could live life over...

Would you live life over if you could?

I’m not sure I would live life over, even if I could, but I’d sure change a few things for sure… perhaps not about my life, but about me instead.

I probably wouldn’t be so uptight and prevent my self from enjoying the moment as I wrote about yesterday.

I definitely would straighten a path or two I took, even within these last few years as well. :-(

But with all of that said, as far as we know we can’t live life over…

What we can do however is start right now if we haven’t already (I have… but continue to work on self growth in case you’re wondering), and do the best we can to be better human beings as well as enjoy every moment to the best of our abilities.

Today I’m sharing a wonderful poem by Erma Bombeck that basically concurs with what I talk about often.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m not the best always on taking my own advice, :-( but somehow when I read her poem, it shifts so many things into perspective.

I’d also like to mention that I know I promised to share an awe inspiring conversation I had with my friend Dorothy as I drove her home from the cheer competition we attended yesterday.

I’m going to share this conversation with you all tomorrow, and you’ll all see the relevance and how important it is for me to share. (so please don’t miss it!)

While I find the words to convey our chat, I thought I’d lead up to it by first sharing this poem:


If I Had My Life To Live Over
by Erma Bombeck
The following poem was written by the late Erma Bombeck after she discovered she had a terminal illness


If I had my life to live over, I would have talked less and listened more.

I would have invited friends over to dinner even if the carpet was stained and the sofa faded.

I would have eaten the popcorn in the ‘good’ living room and worried much less about the dirt when someone wanted to light a fire in the fireplace.

I would have taken the time to listen to my grandfather ramble about his youth.

I would never have insisted the car windows be rolled up on a summer day because my hair had just been teased and sprayed.

I would have burned the pink candle sculpted like a rose before it melted in storage.

I would have sat on the lawn with my children and not worried about grass stains.

I would have cried and laughed less while watching television – and more while watching life.

I would have shared more of the responsibility carried by my husband.

I would have gone to bed when I was sick instead of pretending the earth would go into a holding pattern if I weren’t there for the day.

I would never have bought anything just because it was practical, wouldn’t show soil or was guaranteed to last a lifetime.

Instead of wishing away nine months of pregnancy, I’d have cherished every moment and realized that the wonderment growing inside me was the only chance in life to assist God in a miracle.

When my kids kissed me impetuously, I would never have said, “Later. Now go get washed up for dinner.”

There would have been more “I love you’s”.. More “I’m sorrys” …

But mostly, given another shot at life, I would seize every minute… look at it and really see it … live it…and never give it back.
© Erma Bombeck

Would you not agree this is a poem we all should read often? What are some of the quirky and petty things you would change if you had your life to live over?

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Marcus Baker March 9, 2011 at 5:33 am

Hi Jayne,

It would have been great to say I wouldn’t have done many things differently but alas I do have a list! Sigh…

I agree though that we must live the remainder of our lives differently NOW if we want to minimize our regrets by the time we’re 70!

I love the poem as it reminds us to find relief and be happy and less uptight. If only we could learn to be less resistant for more of the time, we would find it so much easier to go with the flow.

Thanks for sharing this Jayne. It spoke to me loudly and clearly! :)

~Marcus
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Jayne Kopp March 9, 2011 at 8:53 pm

Marcus, you really have to hate those lists don’t you? Oh brother… I don’t even want to think of mine.

Its comforting however to realize that I am human… and all we can do is work towards doing the best we can!

Always nice to see you Marcus. I’ll pop over to your blog as soon as I finish watching the goldfish for a bit!

Jayne

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Jayne Kopp March 8, 2011 at 4:00 pm

Hi Oliver… it’s funny the things we do that we wish we could change.

Believe me I’ve dropped a few clangers along the way too but as you say, we can’t dwell on these things.

I am in the middle of completing a post today that will have many of us simply embracing our lives, regardless of the mistakes we’ve made.

It will be up soon and I’m hoping you can have a look. It might be tomorrow your time by the time you see it!

Thanks for stopping by as always.

Jayne
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Jeanine March 8, 2011 at 12:09 pm

Whenever I get to thinking about something I wish I could have done differently, it makes me think about those movies and TV shows where people actually were allowed to do that and their lives changed in ways they didn’t expect. Some of them very disconcerting!

Better keep things the way they were :) .

“I would have invited friends over to dinner even if the carpet was stained and the sofa faded.”

“I would have cried and laughed less while watching television – and more while watching life.”

Love the whole poem, every time I read it, but those were the pieces of it that stood out to me today. Really challenges me, as an introvert, to make sure I am connecting to real people as much as I sometimes connect to my beloved routine & to TV.

Great post!

BTW, did you know that that vote/tweet/FB thing on the side follows me down the page and covers up portions of it? Have to admit I’m not fond of it.

But reading your post today was worth it!
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Jayne Kopp March 8, 2011 at 3:58 pm

Hi Jeanine, Thanks for your comment. Its funny how reading certain things, particularly such as this poem forces you to look at your own life. I see a lot of things in this poem that I do that are ridiculous. I have to say thought that I truly do improve almost daily.

regarding the share bar – it seems ok on my screen(s) on all computers.

I am wondering if perhaps your resolution might be set differently? What browser do you use? I haven’t heard from anyone else that it blocks the content, but I will. On mine there is a decent space between my content and the bar.

hmmm…

as for the ‘following’ it does that… but it’s not supposed to get in the way of the post!

Thanks for bringing it to my attention.
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Oliver Tausend March 8, 2011 at 3:13 am

Hi Jayne,

well, that’s an interesting question. I remember saying one sentence to me and wife, when the financial services company I was associated with was in crisis mode back in 2002/2003:”I can’t do anything else because I haven’t learned anything else.”

So I felt the urge of doing something else and I killed this tiny little seed with this silly excuse. How stupid !

I wished I hadn’t said that because this sentence closed my eyes, ears and all other senses for years.

In 2009, it was a lot more painful to make changes.

Don’t cry over spilled milk, as the old saying goes.

Thanks for sharing your insights.

Take care

Oliver
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Jayne Kopp March 8, 2011 at 4:03 pm

Hi Oliver… it’s funny the things we do that we wish we could change.

Believe me I’ve dropped a few clangers along the way too but as you say, we can’t dwell on these things.

I am in the middle of completing a post today that will have many of us simply embracing our lives, regardless of the mistakes we’ve made.

It will be up soon and I’m hoping you can have a look. It might be tomorrow your time by the time you see it!

Thanks for stopping by as always.

Jayne

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