Are you content with life? In other words are you happy with your life and the stage you’re at.
Unfortunately the answer to this question for most people is “no not really”.
Now I’m not talking about being content because you are the type of person who has to have the latest and greatest new hot trendy gadget, nor am I talking about being competitive with others or thinking the grass is greener on the other side.
What I’m trying to get at is if you are personally content with your own achievements and where you are in life.
Though there can be many things that attribute to a feeling a bit disappointed or fed up, more often than not it’s because we haven’t reached a goal, or feel we are not where we had hoped at this stage of the game.
The problem is though, that many people don’t DO something about it. They don’t have the insight to realize they do have control over their current situation.
Being in the business of personal development, and having the opportunity to talk to a variety of personalities often, I find that people tend to stagnate or give up on themselves after a while because they are so blinded by their subconscious programming. Most people start to “accept” that where they are… is where they will stay.
It’s a shame really, because as I’ve said many times before, life is far too short. We only live once and should take it upon ourselves to live in the moment and just DO the things we want to do.
After all, what’s the worst that can happen? You can’t lose what you don’t have, so why mope when you have the same opportunity as anybody else to change your own situation.
I’m not saying it’s “easy peasy“, you do have to bust your buns occasionally to break through the barrier of “nothingness”, but if you’re really ‘ticked’ and disappointed with the way things are, a little exertion might be just the ticket.
This goes for anything in life really. We all have different wants and needs, and things that would make us feel more satisfied or proud and we almost always have to work towards making them happen.
What’s more, often our discontentment is linked to our financial situation which makes us feel SO helpless and for some reason seems to cloud our imagination of what we might be able to do to get out of the predicament.
Though finances are not the ‘be all and end all’ it helps if we can afford a few things to make our lives a little easier and I suppose that is why most of my conversations are with people who wish to start a home business and are interested in personal development.
I’m pleased that most of my potential partners and coaching clients realize the need for personal development, as a natural first step, but most of them still need help with plucking up guts to take action on improving things.
Sometimes it’s just the ‘not knowing’ part that scares people off. In other words, they just are not sure what to do. That’s where I come in… as I can’t emphasize enough how important taking action is. It really is the key to success and as one of my favourite quotes confirms:
“If you do what you’ve always done, you’ll get what you’ve always gotten” (Tony Robbins)
A great way to start making these changes would be to take some time to think about what it is exactly that is holding you back, and make note.
Once you know the root cause of your challenge, you can then determine what it is you need to do to feel content.
I have to be honest and acknowledge that there are some things we cannot change completely. I.e.: losing a friend or family member, suffering heartache, or battling illness, but there are things you can do to ‘get past’ these issues to a certain degree in order to help speed up the healing process and add some ‘good’ feelings to replace some of the tough ones to help soften the impact.
If your hold ups are solely based on ‘goals’ or progress (which is really what this post is more about), you have the same opportunity to make significant changes if you are willing to take action.
There was a time when I wasn’t 100% content with life either, BUT thankfully realized I was the only one who could make the necessary changes. I have found that working towards my goals gave me a feeling of personal satisfaction and I’m thoroughly enjoying the experience of getting there.
I’d like to emphasize, that I am not suggesting we always have to be “on the want” – and always striving. I do know some people just can’t seem to feel content no matter what.
I’m just suggesting here that if you truly feel there is something that is holding you back from being content in life that is within your control, then its definitely time to identify it and make improvement while you’re still here and able to do so.
If taking the steps in the right direction is a difficult one to do alone, why not reach out to someone and get some help.
Everyone needs a little help sometimes to get re-wired and get on track. Feel free to contact me if you’re feeling unsure, and let’s see if we can’t start making changes.
Not everyone takes the time to analyze their personal discontent and tend to just go with it rather than taking the time to pinpoint what changes they could be making. Sometimes people just don’t know how to peel back the layers.
To help clearly cut to the root cause of what you’d like to adjust is to determine how you might answer the following question:
If you were to die tomorrow, would you look back and say your were content with life? If the answer is no, then what would have made the difference and what would you wish you had done differently if you could live life over?
Often the answer is not that complicated!
What would help you feel more content and happy with life? What are you doing about it?