Building Relationships Online | Getting to Know Each Other

by Jayne Kopp on March 30, 2011

building relationships - getting to know each other

Getting to know each other and building relationships online has been my favourite part of this three year ride!

The thing is… I still seem to learn a lot about my contacts, or should I say “cyber-friends” from time to time and often feel surprised. I think “oh wow… why didn’t I know that?”

My question and I suppose ‘challenge’ to you (sort of challenge anyway) is first of all to ask ‘how much should we share?’ … and then also to see if you are interested in letting the rest of us into your life a little more to share a few trivial bits of info?

While this is a fun post… I am writing it because I have been rolling around a few questions (in my mind) for a while:

Being in the personal development industry, my main goal, and absolute passion is to help others overcome limiting beliefs and discover their own personal power in order to make positive life changes.

The reason this is such a huge focus for me is because I have always been “driven” and jumped into entrepreneurial adventures full tilt, but I know there are so many people out there who “want to”…but are afraid to due to lack of confidence. :-(

Second… I have had a great life, but six years ago it came tumbling down like a ton of bricks and left me for the first time in my life, like a crumpled train wreck.

I’d never been heartbroken before or felt so energy-less. Life lost its spark for a while and sent me for a real loop!!

Thankfully, I kicked myself in the behind… I had to. Even though it wasn’t easy…I took the painful steps to put one foot in front of the other to get the show back on the road.

While I’m 95% better now (still need daily work)… I know how devastating an unexpected life change can be and how immobilizing and detrimental this type of experience can be.

Because of my first hand experience with disappointment as well as success, I have learned to create a whole new life, therefore it is my mission to help others pick themselves up and move on in a big way.

Because of the nature of my mission, I wonder ‘how much’ personal information should we share?

I’m pretty much an open book… but there are some things I’ve done that I’m not proud of… and other things I am; and while I know my focus is not about ‘me’ – I think that people often feel more comfortable knowing that I/we are human and might have experienced similar life changes as well as made mistakes and survived!

Naturally, there are many things I won’t share… being that this is the internet and all… for common sense reasons… but what do you think about sharing personal life experiences and to what depth?

I’ll leave you with this, but first I thought I would share 20 things about me and ask if you might write a similar post so we can get to know each other a little more? (Your choice but I thought it might be fun!) :-)
I love learning new things about people too!

So here goes:

1) My name is actually Jennifer-Jayne! Yip… I know it might be a surprise.

I am named after my mom’s sister who passed away before I met her. Her name was Jennifer-June. I then named my daughter Jennifer-Rose.

My daughter & I go by our middle names and we are only called “Jennifer” when we are in trouble!

2) I have more power tools than the average man! I drywall, tile-set, I’ve framed walls, used nail guns, drills, power saws, you name it.

I love renovating, but due to age … my energy isn’t quite as rambunctious as is used to be! I do not touch electrical and plumbing though… (that might not be a smart move for me!)

3) I am the queen of projects! My family thinks I’m nuts sometimes.

Last year I River Rocked a WHOLE wall in my living room. It all started innocently by taking the dog for a run on the beach when I noticed how beautiful some of the rocks were – colour-wise (particularly after a rain). I thought I would like a river rock wall in my living room to match the outside of my house.

My poor family had to put up with me for a whole month while I completed the project. I liked it so much I did the bathroom next! John begs me not to jump into obsessive compulsive mode (as I do often). He fears the whole house might turn into a rocky cave one day! :-)

4) I like music of all types, but ACDC is pretty close to the top. Not sure if this is a good thing necessarily when making an impression on my kids! I just love the catchyness of many of their tunes! Aerosmith is a close second… love Stevie Tyler!

5) I’ve logged quite a few hours on the back of a Harley… but never driven one myself! Many of my friends have bikes… and with that said, even my dad owns a Harley. Maybe it’s a second childhood or craving for ‘coolness’… not sure to be honest!

6) Both my children were ‘surprises!” I had never planned to have them… didn’t really know I could due to a pituitary enlargement I’ve had all my life.

When my daughter was ‘in the works’ I thought I had the stomach flu … for three months! Went to the doctor and just about fainted when he told me ITS NOT THE FLU! :-)

If that wasn’t enough… 11 months later didn’t the same thing happen! My darling Joseph was on his way! You’d figure at 40 you’d know what caused it! ;-)

My kids are the GREATEST blessing from God that I could have ever imagined and I am thankful every single day for them! I was happy before… but what an empty life it really must have been when I think about it. Who knew??
my kids

8) I’m not blond! I used to be ‘medium brunette’… then my hair went darker after I had my kidlets.

Due to the inset of ‘salt and pepperiness’ shortly thereafter… I found it easier to go lighter… and lighter… and lighter… now who know’s? … I might be a silver fox for all I know!

I also have three tatoos! (they are hidden … don’t ask!)

9) I used to be a Horse Person! Most of my life to be honest. My first horse was named “Limbo” and my second horse, one that I just ‘acquired’ somehow, was named “Diamond”.

I had Limbo since I was 12 years old, he was 1. Diamond was 7 when I adopted him.

Both of my beautiful companions passed away at 32 a few years apart.

I used to show my horses… but not often in ‘pleasure’ classes. I was huge into Barrel racing or anything that required immense speed and flying shavings and dirt! :-)

10) I am an only “child” – my dad was ‘ok’ with that. I am not sure if it was because he felt he had reached ‘perfection’ the first time (joking)… or if I was enough to handle! My mom would have liked 10 kids!

Contrary to what many think about only kids… i was NOT spoiled… quite the opposite to be honest!

11) I love interior decorating and spent many times completely changing a room with every decorating method known to man!

12) I like beer! I also have a love for really spicy Caesars, especially if they have spicy beans! I can’t drink more than one glass of red wine though… It goes to my head.

This is not a problem (thankfully!) if I have more than one drink per month (if that) I’d be exaggerating! (unless I go out of course, which isn’t that often so I think I’m safe!)

13) I love animals. My first cat lived to be 21 years old. His name was Tiddles. I have had a few cats since… Whiskers, Ben, Lucy and Marjorie.

I don’t have a cat now, but I do have a dog. His name is Winston. (Actually (Charles Winston). He is the craziest Springer Spaniel on the planet. He and I have our differences! (Mostly me with him!)

14) I have known my significant other, John, since High School! He was waaaay too much trouble for me back then… (And well known for it!). Funny how things turn out though. Even now I have to pinch myself sometimes!

He is an incredible person. He spoils me rotten, as well as the children (who adore him)… he has two beautiful teenage daughters who are perfect. He is also wonderful to his ex wife, Rita. Just a nice man all around and I am very lucky!

15) I sell fake grass! Also known as Synthetic Turf or Artificial Turf. My Back yard is all Synthetic turf. I put this in because my house is like ‘club med for kids’ in the summer; all the neighbourhood kids like to have play dates here. :-(

We have a HUGE above ground collapsible pool, a trampoline, swing set, slide, and … of course the dog!

In the summer the kids were either as dusty or muddy as coal miners! I installed synthetic turf and don’t have that problem anymore.

The other bonus is the yard looks pristine all year round, I don’t have to lift a finger to keep it beautiful and you can’t tell the difference! I love it so much, I now distribute it and being that fake grass is newish to British Columbia… it might turn out to be a fun little side line!!

16) I am an ‘all or nothing’ type of person. Everything I do is ALL in.

Last year I decided I would like a motor home… for the kids really. I’ve done my stints camping in tents, etc… so I thought a motor home would be just the ticket.

I envisioned buying a 25 ft. or so. I ended up with a 34 footer! It sure is the coolest thing… but I can’t drive it YET! It looks like a Rock Band rolling down the street. The kids call it “the Rolling Turd” like Robbin Williams’ movie “RV” !!

My friends say “do you think you could have found a bigger one?” in jest of course. Oh well , it’s the way it worked out! :-)

16) I have fish in bowls all over the house. My son has a blue Beta named Max. My daughter has a pinkish-red one named Katrina. The ‘kitchen fish’ is named Princess Leah, Hanna Montana resides in the hallway upstairs and Jackson and Melissa are tiny goldfish in the living room. Yes… I clean many bowls!

17) I’m divorced and have been for six years. I still struggle with it however I am much better than I used to be. I believe when you love someone, no matter what… and even if things go sideways that true love never dies completely.

Surprisingly and unfortunately, I have found some people don’t operate the same way and it saddens me.

I wholeheartedly credit diving into personal development and self growth for helping me past this. I believe ‘things’ happen, but we have to ‘cowboy up’ and embrace change. We can’t change others no matter what.

I believe that we all have to remain open to change and if done correctly the doors open to attract all kinds of possibilities.

I also believe that most things in life happen for a reason. Even though I miss my past life, my new one is incredible.

18) I am currently deep into a coaching program in order to become a certified life coach. This is another passion… and surprise that I discovered I enjoy since, as well as I’m apparently good at it.

It’s funny how sometimes you discover hidden strengths isn’t it… even if you’re not the best at solving your own problems all the time!

19) I’m not much of a fashion buff. Most days are spent in Jeans and sweatshirts! In fact I have 34 pairs of jeans! (Ok… a bit over the top). Though I’m ok with this… it makes it very difficult when a ‘posh’ or dressy event rears it’s head… panic stations set in as I scramble to find something dressy to wear. :-)

20) I have a variety of friends online and offline, and although I love time alone and I’m very comfortable in my own space, I appreciate every single person I befriend!

21) (I thought this was worth mentioning) I used to think Personal Development and Self Growth was ‘over the top’ and a bit of quackery.

If ever I heard a ‘Dr’ on TV talking about the power of positive thinking I thought ‘whooo hooo’ (picture my finger moving in circular motion pointing at my temple!).

I’ve changed my tune these last few years! Now I know that ANYBODY can achieve anything and make positive life changes. We are all powerful humans. Each and every one of us has so much to share.

We all deserve success… and we can all get there if we put in the effort.

I feel it is also important to have a laugh at our individuality as well.

Building relationships and getting to know each other helps me have a little fun in the process… and that was one of the ideas behind this post!

I hope you’ve enjoyed a bit of mindless trivia.

I just thought it would be fun to share a few bits and pieces and thought since building relationships online is what it’s all about that this may be a good idea for some of your blog posts and help in getting to know each other even better!

Next year I’ll do another to cover 2011. What do you think?

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Samantha Bangayan May 4, 2011 at 6:36 pm

Jayne, thank you *so* much for sharing this post with me! =) I love these kinds of posts and tidbits of info as well and I found that I could relate to so much on your list!

You’ve really got me thinking about potentially “river-rock-ing” one of my walls here in Peru too! It would make me feel like I’m back in Vancouver again or at least on the coast. =)

And that’s so cool about fake grass! Did your lawn get attacked by crows last year too? Our lawn was totally ripped apart and I had no idea about synthetic grass. I’ll have to mention it to my dad and recommend you! =)

I am also not so much of a fashion gal and I completely identify with your “all or nothing” personality. I would even add to that and say that I also feel extremes — I can be extremely ecstatic, but also extremely sad if something heartbreaking happens to me. Actually, in reading your post, I realized that you may be the same way.

Thanks so much for connecting with me further, Jayne! =) Hugs!
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Jayne Kopp June 8, 2011 at 8:58 pm

Ha ha, look at that Samantha… I am responding weeks later to a post you commented on!! ((Sorry)) you slipped under the wire.

I would highly recommend you river rock a wall in Peru! It is SO soothing and calming to have a project in the first place, not to mention a hobby that brings the outside in!!

No my lawn did you get attacked by crows, but we do have many critters here in Tsawwassen, Racoons, squirrels, moles, just to name a few.

Yes… feel free by all means to tell your dad about the synthetic turf. I will give him a good deal! HOnestly it has been the BEST move I made. No maintenance, yet my outside looks like I spend SO much time on it.

Thanks so much for commenting on this post. It sure got a lot of response. I think I will do one each year to see if I change much!!

Take care, lovely to see you around these parts. Lets not lose track on one and other. I know I saw you the other day… I will pop over and visit you too.

Jayne

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Jym April 4, 2011 at 7:01 am

Nice to get to know you more Jayne!

You can certainly come and Rockwall my lounge sometime if you want – I’m a classic non-finisher of home projects (a little known morsel about me!). I brew some pretty good beer though.

Amazing to learn more about the faces we see on the screen, and sharing like this certainly helps to build human and emotional bonds with your readers.

I appreciate your openness in sharing this much about your life.
All the best,
Jym
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Jayne Kopp April 5, 2011 at 11:20 pm

HI Jym, sorry for the tardy response! Been a little behind the 8-ball lately.

I love to fiddle with home projects but have to admit there are a few loose ends that really do need tying up.

I would love to come over and rock the wall, the commute is a little far just at the moment thought! Maybe one day… and I’ll try one of your home brews too!

I think its fun to open up a bit on harmless things. Not that I have any harmful attributes :-) but if we keep it lighthearted its kind of fun.

Thanks for stopping by Jym. See you soon.

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Kesha Brown April 2, 2011 at 7:11 am

Jennifer! Ha, no you’re not in trouble :-)

I love this post and here’s why…I like that you feel comfortable sharing some of your personal life with us. It really helps to connect with you as a person and not just a brand or business! I love it!

Also, I think I “know” you now if that makes sense. LOL I feel I can connect with you outside of just what you represent on a business side. For instance, if I hear some interesting news about animals, tattoos, or harleys, I may feel compelled to share with you :-)

Overall, this post is not only good for your readers like me who like to know about you as a person, but it also ties directly into your brand (personal development) so that your clients or others you work with can really get a “warm and fuzzy” about you as well and be more inclined to work with you (I know I would!)

~Kesha
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Jayne Kopp April 5, 2011 at 11:23 pm

Hi Kesha, I’m a bit behind … can you tell?? LOL… sorry for the late response.

It is so funny what people catch onto in a post. I am actually not the ‘tattoo queen’ nor the Harley queen for that matter… its just I have a couple (tats) and seems the people in my life like them. LOL

I agree that people like some warm and fuzzyness… if you share fun facts, it makes it just that. You sometimes see things in a person you would have never imagined!

I’m waiting for yours one day!

Jayne

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Allie April 1, 2011 at 1:46 pm

Hi Jayne,

I am reading this post and thinking we have so much in common.

The only things we don’t are: I’m married still. Not a horse person, but would be if had the chance and have not had the pleasure of being on a Harley, some day! Ha ha!

I have a crazy Brittany dog named Maggy and grew up with Springers. I love them!

Both my kids were “oops!” But love them more than life.

Oh, I forgot, no tats- yet. Can’t make up my mind.

As to how much to share? Whatever you feel comfortable with. My blog is a business, so it is minimal but when I get to know people online they get to know me a little more. Share only what would keep people trusting in you. Does that make sense? Be human and honest.

I think sometimes it’s not what we share but how it is shared. If yu have a potty mouth, maybe that shouldn’t be shared if you are running a business.

Have a great weekend!
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Jayne Kopp April 5, 2011 at 11:26 pm

Hi Allie, thanks so much for leaving the comment a few days ago! :-) Just a bit behind would you say. I have been a busy as a one armed paper hanger so please accept my apology.

I agree that Potty mouth is not a good thing in business!! I think that if you share fun harmless facts that people can thing “really… I would have never thought that” it makes it fun. I have read posts in the past that have really had me thinking ‘wow – we have parallel lives”…

I like you love my children more than life itself. they are my HUGE why!

Lovely to have you here. I was on your blog a day or so ago and really enjoyed it. I will head back over once I catch my breath a bit. Thanks so much for mentioning me on your daily rambling.

see you soon!

Jayne

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Susanna Hess April 1, 2011 at 6:06 am

Hi Jayne!!!

Wow, I loved this post. We’re redoing our back yard completely and now you have me thinking… LOL

It was really great reading more about you. It also helps that you’re so easy to be friends with online, and now this was a fun peak into a little more.

Thanks for sharing!

Susanna

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Jayne Kopp April 1, 2011 at 8:16 am

Hi Susanna…Long time no see (sorry) been as busy as a ‘one armed paper hanger’…

Thanks for taking a peep into the inner parts of my life. I think you should go next?

You know, the Fake Grass Lawn is one of the BEST decisions I have made. It is so real, it even has ‘fake’ dead bits! It also saves me at least 4 hours per week in the summer. No watering, maintenance…. (have I sold you yet?)

You too are a very special friend online. I can’t wait to get fully caught up on all your shenanigans … but I am keeping ‘one’ eye on you!

See you soon!

Jayne

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Golda Smith March 31, 2011 at 9:00 pm

Well hello Jennifer Jayne! I like that name and I absolutely loved this post. Your list was so personal and funny. 34 pairs of jeans? Do you think you have enough? lol

I find that most people don’t open up enough about themselves which is exactly what you should do on social media. People want to connect with other REAL people, not people who sound like robots.

You did a great job of mixing both business and personal.

Golda
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Jayne Kopp March 31, 2011 at 11:02 pm

Hey Golda, thanks so much for stopping by and leaving a comment. Well OK 34 pairs of jeans might be a bit over the top… I did mention I had obsessive compulsive tendencies though… in fairness!! (LOL)

I believe you are correct. People like to get to know little bits of nothingness when building friendships, etc online! I am glad you enjoyed it! So R U next??

Thanks again for stopping.

Jennifer-Jayne! :-)

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Brankica March 31, 2011 at 8:16 pm

This is my first time on your blog and I am so happy this is the first post I read here. What a great way to be introduced to you – learn all about you :)

I love these kinds of posts and have been planning to do one myself for awhile now, but never get around to doing it.

For now, I chose 2 points to relate myself to you :) and that is my puppy (not a spaniel though) and tattoos, I have 11 and all visible in a bikini, lol.
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Jayne Kopp March 31, 2011 at 11:05 pm

Hey Brankica… how lovely to see you here. I wish I’d have known you were coming… I would have put the kettle on! LOL

I know we have passed on the cyber highway… and even ‘shot’ an email back and forth (no pun intended!) … well ok it was intended. I have to keep on the right side of the sharp shooter!

Ok… I thought I was over the top. 11 tattoos! LOL Something tells me you like ink.

Mine show in a bikini too…

What kind of pup do you have?

I think you should go next… I’m looking forward to an extended bio!

Thanks for coming by. I appreciate seeing you!

Jayne

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Devesh March 31, 2011 at 7:39 pm

Hi Jayne,

Wow. What a fantastic post you’ve wrote. loved this post Jayne.
Learned so many awesome things about you today.

Thanks for sharing this incredible post. Keep up the rocking work. Just Retweeted.

~Dev
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Jayne Kopp March 31, 2011 at 11:11 pm

Hey Dev. Thanks for the comment. I look forward to reading your bio soon!!?? Thanks so much for the RT. I appreciate it!

Jayne

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Niclas Johansson March 31, 2011 at 2:38 pm

Hi Jayne,

Thank you for the glimpses into yourself – for some reason the power tools, liking of ACDC and the bike fascination was NOT what I was expecting from a blog with the look/design and the topic that you have. It’s a wonderful thing to be surprised like that! I’m saving my own version of this post for awhile until I have a bit more other stuff posted on my blog, but it’ll come! Probably… :)

Cheers and no fears,
Niclas J
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Jayne Kopp March 31, 2011 at 11:10 pm

Hi Nic, well you are mostly right. Bike fascination is not mine… it happens to be those with whom I grew up with, married, and hung with. LOL.

I guess with all the ‘pink’ … power tools, ACDC and bikes do seem a bit odd. LOL

thanks for stopping!

Jayne

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Stacy March 31, 2011 at 2:11 pm

Hi Jayne,

Thanks so much for sharing such a personal post! I really enjoyed reading it very much! I remember talking about some of the stuff over emails when we first met – we’ve both grown a lot in our blogging since then, have we not? :)

If you haven’t already, you really ought to put a link to this post in your About page! About pages get a lot of views and how much more will people feel that they can trust you after reading this post! The more real a person feels the more trustworthy they are and the more trustworthy they are the more likely they are to do business with them.

Take care,
Stacy
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Jayne Kopp March 31, 2011 at 11:08 pm

Hey Stacy, nice to see you. Yes we have spoken (so to speak) on email about a few things. One of these days perhaps we should work on cross guest posting. Maybe after the challenge? I have felt a lot of growth these last few months for sure.

That is a great idea about linking to my about page. Its harmless info and I do believe people like to know a little more about the ones they work with. Great suggestion!

Thanks

Jayne

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Steve Nicholas March 31, 2011 at 1:42 pm

Great post, Jayne! I would’ve never pegged you as an AC/DC fan ;-) Thank you so much for sharing with us!

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Jayne Kopp March 31, 2011 at 11:06 pm

Hi Steve. Thanks for stopping by. It sounds worse than it is. Maybe it’s my ‘wannabe’ wild side.

Thanks for your comment!

Jayne

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Leanne Chesser March 31, 2011 at 12:34 pm

Jayne, this post is excellent! I think sharing ourselves is necessary in online business. We need to write conversationally and personally and also let people know about our lives. I think how much depends on the person, the audience, and how or when it’s shared (e.g. the middle of a huge challenge might not be a great time to share . . . or it might be).

I love ACDC too, by the way :) . It sounds like you and I have a bit in common.
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Jayne Kopp March 31, 2011 at 12:41 pm

Hi Leanne, Thanks so much “fellow rocker” LOL

I didn’t know you were located in my neck of the woods too, btw. Are you in Alberta?

Thanks so much. I agree that in the middle of a challenge may not necessarily be the best time to share. We tend to sound the way we feel – and that doesn’t help anyone.

I just think (and have found) that people like to know you are real, have a life and things going on. it puts everyone on the same playing field. We realize we are all human.

Thanks so much for stopping.

Jayne

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Leanne Chesser April 1, 2011 at 7:16 am

Yes, I’m in Alberta (Edmonton). Very cool to meet local-ish people online :) .

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Oliver Tausend March 31, 2011 at 10:43 am

Hi Jayne,

wow, I loved to read this post, thanks fo sharing some nuggets from your personal life, something we probably don’t write into our social media profiles. Hm, when writing this, I ask myself: Why not, because it makes you a real and authentic person.

What impresses me the most, is your arsenal of tools and the abilitiy to do with them what seems to be their purpose. I am saying that because I am a below average man when it comes to that, two left hands, as we say in Germany.

Thanks again for sharing your enjoyable story.

Take care

Oliver
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Jayne Kopp March 31, 2011 at 12:44 pm

Hi Oliver, thank you for coming over.

I am pleased you enjoyed a little snapshot into my life. It may not be the most exciting life… but I m satisfied with it and quite enjoy it frankly.

Regarding my collection of power tools. This is because I was an only child and my dad paid little attention to my feminine side!! LOL he was always renovating and ‘required’ my help occasionally.

it has come to pay off big time.

I am sure you have stronger talents than myself in other areas. Many of my men friends call me to help them out with projects… so you are not alone!! Take care!

Jayne

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Jane | Find All Answers March 31, 2011 at 10:23 am

Oh Jayne,

That is a terrific post. Don’t tell me that you have written it for fun. It is indeed something that is needed for your business as well. How close can you get to people’s hearts when you get naked (not literally ;) )?

Now, jokes apart, this is something wonderful. You have opened up your mind, family, attitude, character and everything else before your readers. This shows how much close you think of us.

I feel really close to you. And I very much enjoyed the part about reading your adventure of getting the kids. I read that part three times.

Cheers,
Jane.
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Jayne Kopp March 31, 2011 at 12:46 pm

Thanks so much Jane.
I feel close to many of my online cyber friends. I love getting to know people. We take so many of the small things in life for granted don’t we. We often don’t think that people would be interested in the tiny parts of life. ie: my collection of fish bowls… or Winston.

My children are the apples of my eye. What a huge blessing they have been to me. I could not imagine life without my surprises.

Do you have children?

Lovely to see you Jane. Your comment made my day!

Best

Jayne

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Mavis Nong March 31, 2011 at 8:30 am

Hey Jayne,

Wow, I so loved and appreciated this post. Thank you so much for sharing stuff about you. Now, I feel like I really “know” you, Jayne :D

You’re right, building relationships is the name of the game, we’re in the people business. So, it goes without a saying that we need to let them into our world, by sharing our personal story, things we love, things we dislike etc.

Well done, Jayne!

Mavis
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Jayne Kopp March 31, 2011 at 12:48 pm

Hi Mavis, thanks so much for dropping by.

I love getting to know people online… and I am glad you feel you ‘know me’ too! :-)

It makes life interesting. I love to know the ins and outs of the days of my friends. It makes us seem a little more interesting than been driven marketers who sit behind a screen all day! LOL

Thanks so much!

Jayne

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Rowena Bolo March 31, 2011 at 8:13 am

Hey Jayne,

What a fun post! I must say you have a very colorful life, and thank you for openly sharing this with us…

I love how you showed both the lighter side and the seriousness of life, and how you incorporated the story which made you embrace personal development. I agree with Janet, that all the things you just shared make you very relatable and people definitely seek coaches who have “been there, done that”.

“I used to think Personal Development and Self Growth was ‘over the top’ and a bit of quackery” – I can so relate with this , and I think a lot of people do ;-) . Beautiful post, Jayne, it’s heart-felt and I also enjoyed seeing the photos with your loved ones.

- Rowena
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Jayne Kopp March 31, 2011 at 12:49 pm

Hey Rowena… you made it! LOL… I watched every move you made! ((joking))

Thanks so much for commenting.

My life is interesting and very enjoyable… as I am sure all of are lives are. We are just a little different from eachother in some aspects and the same in others.

Personal development has become a very big part of me. Funny how that happens to us. Maybe its a ‘growing’ thing? :-)

Take Care! Nice to see you.

Jayne

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Jon March 30, 2011 at 7:45 pm

Hi JJ! Ok, just Jayne ;)

Well we learned a lot of great things about you today. How neat that you dive right into the home renovation projects. It’s a great thing to be handy, right? (I also enjoy remodeling!)

You know, even though I spent years in the landscape design business I always had trouble keeping up with my own lawn. By the time I got home I just never wanted to work on my OWN property. Nowadays it’s a bit different since I”m not in that line of work but I think I’d prefer Artificial Turf.

Oh and “all or nothing” is a fantastic way to be, see you around…

Jon
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Jayne Kopp March 31, 2011 at 12:51 pm

Hey Jon, ha ha … I have been called JJ more than once!

Thanks for stopping by.

Its funny how we often don’t enjoy our own things ie: lawn cutting when you used to be a landscaper. Its kinda like a dentist with bad teeth!!

Yes… I think ‘all or nothing’ is o k at times… Sometimes it can be a bit overwhelming or stop me from doing something if I feel I can’t be ALL in! You have to weigh it out!

Best

Jayne

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Janet March 30, 2011 at 5:50 pm

Jayne, aloha. WOW! What a post! Congratulations on a job well done.

In terms of how much to share online, I believe it is up to each individual and, if they are in business, what they want known. Like it or not, when people are looking for coaches, partners or even when they meet someone new, there is a tendency to check them out online.

What may be appropriate to share with friends, is not so good in the business sense.

Even though you shared so generously of yourself in this post, Jayne, I don’t see anything that would be harmful from a business sense. In fact, just the opposite.

If I were looking for a coach in your area of expertise, this post could well be what tips me over the edge and makes me decide to call you. The reason I say that is because it is obvious you have “been there, done that & bought the t-shirt” yet you tell your story in a matter-of-fact manner without rancor.

Jayne, something else that I think makes a difference in this post, is sharing the family photos with us. Seeing you with your children, John and Winston definitely creates a bond of familiarity.

Terrific post, Jayne. Thx for sharing your life with me. Aloha. Janet
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Jayne Kopp March 30, 2011 at 6:51 pm

Hi Janet (aloha!) :-) Ha Ha… bought the T-shirt. I love that expression but rarely use it.

Thanks so much for your thoughtful comment. I am glad you enjoyed the pics. Isn’t Winston handsome? Ha ha.

I really love to learn bits and pieces about people, and as you say, most people do try to ‘find things out’ online.

At the end of the day, we all have so much going on, and I am so grateful to have all these bits and bobs to share that people get a kick out of.

I hope a few of our blogging buddies will share a few tidbits. I could read about others all night1

thanks so much for stopping1

“Aloha”

Jayne

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