“You will never out perform your own self image!”
I was listening to John Assaraf yesterday and he told a story of the man who helped him get his life on track. The light bulb moment for John, was when his friend quoted the above words.
I though, ‘wow’… that is so true.
Have you every really thought about Self Image that way… and the way it can make you or break you?
Take a moment to think about those words for a second.
When I think about all the ways I have felt over the course of my life, I am convinced that my self image has either locked me into a rut, or opened the doors to move me forward.
There have been times in my life when I have not necessarily been my own best friend. I’ve felt low, and not particularly impressed by my performance on a couple of occasions.
When I’ve gone through this stage, I have often felt unworthy, energy-less and stuck. I’ve also seen no reason to lift a finger to improve the situation because I had temporarily convinced myself that they way things were…just were!
When I’ve had the sense to pull myself out of it, and re-evaluate things, I’ve been able to see the many possibilities that lie ahead.
During these ‘tweaking’ periods I’ve been forced to look at myself and see my value and personal strength and recognized many reasons to expand and explore many possibilities.
When you think about it… that’s the golden key! Seeing good points in ones self is what it’s all about and adds fuel to your fire.
If you feel unworthy, and have a negative self image you see no ‘reason’ to improve or even try to improve your situation.
When you feel good about yourself, you have a high self image and realize your capabilities and feel better about your right to opportunities.
There are many other examples too. I.e.: if you feel ‘weak’ or see yourself as being so… you will be! Why try to be strong if you’re convinced you are weak?
If you feel ugly…. It’ll show too. You won’t bother gussying up if you feel there’s no point it… right?
On the other hand if you feel strong… and attractive… you’ll act accordingly. You will also give off that vibration.
Bottom line is though that we should never underestimate the value of improving self image especially if it holds us back.
In my recent post on self worth, I told you of my friend who had held a long time position and was a key employee at her work place. I then explained the company hired a new recruit to ‘help’ but paid the new girl a higher starting salary than my friend was currently earning, despite the fact she had been working there for 8 years.
Even though my dear friend was hurt, she accepted it and told me that she must be getting paid for ‘what she was worth’ didn’t feel she had legitimate grounds to mention it or stand up for herself.
I found this very sad and realized that she felt this way due to her low self image and therefore didn’t want to rock the boat.
If she had a high regard for herself she would have thought “hey wait minute I’m definitely worth as much or more than my trainee” and would have had the confidence to share her feelings… or at least ask questions.
See the difference?
People who do well have a healthy and positive self image. They feel deserving and capable of achievement.
A person with a poor self image sees accepts an unfair situation as ‘what it is’ and decide to live with the status-quo because they don’t recognize their value, personal power or ability to create better circumstances.
In a nut shell, self image can either stifle you or free you. If you’re feeling stuck in a rut, perhaps you need to look at improving your self image.
We all go through hills and valleys, so it’s important to pay attention to the way you see yourself.
Next time you’re feeling a little stagnant’ remember the words of John Assarf and his friend … “You will never outperform your own self image”
This is now one of my favourite quotes… it makes so much sense I think I’ll frame it!!
Wouldn’t you agree?
How has your self image affected your life?