Do you have a habit of taking yourself too seriously?
What I mean is do you allow yourself to have fun?
Are you comfortable in your own skin?
Are you OK with the fact that you are not perfect and perhaps make the odd mistake, or do you let things get you down and get your knickers in a knot?
I used to be the queen of taking myself too seriously.
Everything was a big deal. If things at work didn’t go according to what I had envisioned… or if I sent a quote with a typo and discovered it later, or if I my husband snapped at me just out of stress (we worked together)… Oh my Goodness… one would have though I was Chicken Little and the sky was falling!
I can tell you the first time I realized this huge flaw of mine… and I shall!
As some of you may know my ex and I ran an industrial equipment business here in BC.
This business was a huge part of our lives. We were very fortunate to have built it up (it still goes strong today BTW, even though I’m not there!)
I might add, also, I used to take myself so seriously that at one point admitting my indispensability would have been a hard pill to swallow to be honest…
(sorry I digressed)
Anyway… we had so many awesome customers and I had the real pleasure of meeting so many people from all walks of life and learn so much about how other people live.
I used to love simply absorbing and listening to many, many stories about their past experiences! It was such an incredible time of my life too, meeting so many unique and interesting individuals…..
Sorry, I keep digressing…Back to my story:
One day a customer by the name of Randy Thompson came in to buy a weigh scale.
He lived on a farm in a small rural community near our business. He made his living growing Organic Peppers and such.
It’s been six years since I saw him, but I remember his name like it was yesterday. His business was called Oddball Organics. I also remember he was so… Free (it’s the only word I can think of)
I kind of thought to myself…”how does this fellow earn enough to live well?
At the same time though I thought “wow… he seems so full of positive energy. He is so… happy and balanced” …
Even though I do remember a lot… i.e. Names, company names and most stories very clearly… I may have a few teeny details wrong but I’ll do my best to share his, as well as the lesson he taught me:
We started talking… and I think (not sure) that he may have sensed my stress level (I was as busy as all get out AND at the time my marriage was on the blink).
He shared a few details about his life and how he had made the decision (a while back) to completely shift his perspective on everything.
He told me that he and his wife had split a few years ago… a couple of times. He also told me they had two sons.
Tragically both boys fell in a swimming pool. One of them sadly did not make it, and the other one was left with brain damage.
Through this whole horrible experience, he and his wife united once again. They now both only focus on what’s important and of course raising their remaining son and if I remember correctly… they have added a couple of mini members to their family too!
He said this unthinkable experience caused him to give up his high pressure job and he made the personal choice to only focus on what truly mattered.
Now he runs his business growing and selling peppers, pickling them and selling the products of his business.
He loves and appreciates his family, and he also told me that he and his wife have renewed their vows. (I think more than once!)
He told me that we (all humans) take ourselves too seriously… and he had actually written a book about it. It was called “A Journey” and was about searching for life ‘before’ death.
I have it somewhere… I know it’s in a safe spot. I am going to pull it out in short order and re-read it. There is a reason I’m thinking of him today and I feel I can learn even more from reading it again. That’s on my list after this post!
I do remember that inside the book he had a sketch of a world globe. On that globe he had drawn a dot. Just a ( . ) (Can you see that between the brackets?)
There was an arrow pointing to the dot. The words next to the arrow say “this is YOU!)
I can’t find the words to explain how that tiny sketch affected me
Not only the sketch, but the whole story surrounding his life experiences; and yet he still had such an incredible perspective and set such an immeasurable example.
I could almost still cry when I think of him and tell his story. I wonder how big of a dot he though he made on my life? Maybe I should try to track him down….?
Sometimes we think we are SO important.
We are… but we’re not. (Am I making sense?). Maybe it’s some of the “things” we allow to cling to us that are not.
I guess what I’m trying to get across is that we all need to just ‘chill’. Chill on stupid stuff. Live in the moment, take chances, have fun, pull faces & blow bubbles!
If there’s something you want to do… “Just do it” as Nike says. You are not going to look back on life and think…”boy I’m sure glad I didn’t try X”
If you want to start a business and create a new life for yourself… DO IT… but remember to have fun along the way.
Don’t worry about daft things. Often we worry so much about things, yet less than 8% of what we fear might happen … never does.
It’s all about perspective and just living. Freely!
Take the time to be grateful for what and who you have or have had. If you don’t like something change it.
If you’re not too keen on YOU… change you.
I sure wish I could go back on some things and re-do them. I feel like Cher sometimes and feel like blasting our “If I could turn back time”…
…. I could have saved myself a lot of grief.
On the other hand… I am so blinking GRATEFUL for many things that have come out of what I perceived as negative.
They say that we learn things when we are ready. “They” also say that things happen for a reason. Even Randy Thompson said that. I do believe it’s true.
Not everything is within our control, but to ‘go with it’ and get over yourself is!
If you learn not to take yourself too seriously you will be able to have more fun, and when you have more fun, others around you have more fun too!
My kids will attest to that… they love to say ”When Moms happy, everybody’s happy… but when Mom aint happy, aint nobody happy!” LOL
Just accept that you are a very powerful human with so much personal power and also the option of making as many changes as you wish.
Make the choice to live well, relax and laugh. If you find your stewing over stupid… give yourself an almighty “gonch pull” to snap yourself out of it. Then get someone to poke you in the eye with a sharp stick!
Now go and have a chuckle and lighten up!
Do you ever find you’re taking yourself too seriously? Care to share? It’s amazing what we learn from each other when we least expect it… just as I learned many life lessons from Randy Thompson. I hope he finds this blog one day… wouldn’t that be neat?