Most of us have a desire to make positive life changes and as you may have noticed I’m on the roll on this topic if you read my previous post “Will Starting an Online Business Change Your Life?”
I state this with confidence, not because I am the sharpest knife in the drawer, (I’m not), but simply due to the sheer number of people I speak to about making positive changes and starting an online business in my industry.
If there’s one thing I’ve learned is that we all have needs, dreams, goals and things we would change in order to reach that point of complete satisfaction… (Or at least what we perceive as total satisfaction) in our own minds.
What boggles my mind the most about this is, that many people WANT to create positive change in life, they want to break into this online business industry, but there are too many fears, or excuses getting in the way of just stepping out and doing something about it.
I’m planning a series on “fears” in the very near future but at the moment I’m busy compiling notes from all the many people who have either partnered with me or disappeared for ever. I’d like to share the differences in mindset…. so please stay tuned for that.
In the meantime I am very interested to hear your take on why you have “thought” about making life changes and starting an online business… but haven’t yet taken the steps. (so after you finish reading this post and have let it sink in… please feel free to “let it all” out in a comment below!)
For now, until you shed some possible light, I will share a few of my beliefs surrounding the subject … but I’ll also toss out a few questions… and answers… in order to give you a few things to think about!
What I’m really hoping to do is give you the encouragement (or push) to step out and start working towards what ever it really is that you want to do.
Why you may not be making life changes:
I honestly feel that many people think that creating a business (offline business or online business) is for ‘other people’…or perhaps in your mind “other smarter people”.
* In other words could it be possible that because you have never stepped out of your comfort zone, and that you have “subconsciously” chosen to leave entrepreneurship to those who have?
*Do you find it easier to exclude yourself from this category of individuals, and find it safer to sit on the sidelines and watch instead?
I speak to so many people who have toyed around with the ‘fantasy’ of stepping out and doing something, but never have because they haven’t considered their own possibilities and the benefits that could be enjoyed as a result.
I’ve already told you that I am not the one of the brightest bulbs in the box, but at least I had the openness and saw no harm in at least making the move to do what I felt I needed or wanted to start my online business, in order to also create the changes in life I craved.
Now in fairness, this post really isn’t about me… and perhaps this post shouldn’t all be about making life changes solely connected to starting a business either, but since the vast majority of people I speak to have some sort of financial need… and want to create a positive change in life, its something I know a lot about.
Not to mention that of course being that I am in the industry of helping and coaching entrepreneurs develop their skill online, it is very near and dear to my heart.
The harsh reality is though, that this type of mindset mentioned above is rampant in many other areas of life as well.
For example: I have a friend who loves to ‘watch’ ice skating. She watches any ice skating or figure skating show on TV that she claps her eyes upon!
She visits the local community center to work out often, and during the skating season when the ice is actually on the rink, she will stop by and “watch” the instructors teach people how to skate.
The problem is (and notice I call it a problem)… she had never been on a pair of skates!
I’ve said to her on many occasions…”why don’t you take lessons and learn to skate?”
Her response: “oh… ya know… I’ll just leave it to those who do it well and I’m probably a better observer than I would be a skater…” and she laughed it off.
Talk about getting my knickers in a twist… I mean, how would you EVER know if you don’t try???
To me, this is the poster child example of a loosy goosy attitude. I mean, if you really want to do something and it’s on your mind… then why not?
Now for a few other thoughts and questions from my landmine of honesty (as promised LOL)… whether you want them or not!
* Ask yourself: …”How badly do I want to make changes?”
* If you really have a burning desire to do something… why not do it?
* If fulfilling your desire would create a positive change in your life… ask yourself: “what is really holding me back?”
* I’m sure you’ll agree that life is short… much too short to be honest, and if you were to drop dead tomorrow, (heaven forbid) would you look back on life and be glad you hadn’t done what you NOW have the ability to do while you are here?
Didn’t think so….!
Another question would be: “Is it harmless?” Or “will this hurt anybody?”
Let’s face it, starting an internet business in order to improve and learn how to continue to make life changes is certainly nothing short of beneficial, just the same as learning to skate is completely harmless, and yet could add so much joy.
* How do you think you’d feel if you just decided to step outside your own dotted line and DO what it is you want to do?
* Do you think the benefits would or could far outweigh the negatives?
* Don’t you think there would be a sense of relief and/or excitement by doing something for you?
* Would it add a sense of pride and satisfaction because you are now doing something you’ve thought about for so long?
* Are you not worth the happiness and joy that just might lie ahead if you stepped aside and got the heck out of your own way?
* Who’s it hurting?
In my opinion you are hurting yourself by holding YOU back, just as my friend is/was by not quenching that insatiable desire to skate…
I’m not saying be daft… (Just use common sense). What I am saying is that if you really want to do something like start an online business in order to create positive life changes, then why not grab life by the short hairs and just do it? (???)
You’ve got more to lose by not moving forward than your would by trying your hand at something.
Besides, it’s been my experience that people only get what they want and live life to the fullest, when they actually do something to make life changes.
Solely “thinking” about it will continue to drive you crazy and leave you wondering FOR EVER, if you should have.
As time passes and we age, we often look back and wish we had tried something that would or could have held many promises to making positive life changes.
Unfortunately however, sometimes we feel it’s too late and realize we’ve missed the boat or that it has just sailed out of the harbour and we’re not on it.
It’s a terrible waste of life to be honest, and terribly disappointing.
Now on a positive note: My friend finally… ((Thank goodness))… caved to my continual encouragement (or hounding) and has started to take skating lessons.
Like many new business owners, as a new skater… she has suffered a few bumps and bruises and landed on her bottom more than once.
The thing is though, she always gets back up and brushes herself off and does it again.
Now she’s skating without a safety bar… and her skating sessions are all she can think about…and all she looks forward to. (Sometimes I wish I had duct tape!)
You know what she says to me when she calls me after her lessons?
She’s said more than once “why didn’t you get me to do this sooner?…look at all the time I’ve wasted fantasizing… it’s the best thing I did for myself!”
Oh (groan!) …no comment necessary!
Can you relate or see yourself in my examples? Has it given you something to think about?
If you truly want to start an online business, ask yourself: “am I worth it?”
Then weigh the pros and cons of staying right where you are … opposed to satisfying your dreams and the possibility of creating positive life changes and your own economy.
If you need help or would like a free coaching session to take the steps towards making life changes, pick up the phone or contact me to get your questions answered and let’s get your show on the road!
What are you waiting for?