Learning to take control of life is not always easy, but with that said, it’s not really not all too difficult either; you just have to want to … badly enough!
The thing is, feeling over worked and over stressed has a way of blurring vision. Couple that with unhealthy relationships and bad habits… or should I say repetitive behavior patterns, you begin to feel trapped in a place from where you can see no escape!
With so many things getting ‘on top of you,’ you start to wonder if it’s possible to break free, or where to start.
I know, I’ve been there, done that… so I thought I’d share a few suggestions to see if I can’t help shake you loose!
Here are a few pointers that might help simplify things to help you take control of life:
1) Take Responsibility!
Realize how imperative it is that you take responsibility for everything in life.
I firmly believe that everything you have, or wherever you are in life… is a direct result of what you have done this far. (Right, wrong, good or bad!)
(I’m not talking about losing loved ones in this post… that’s not what I’m meaning here)
For example: if you are not happy with your financial situation, ask yourself what can YOU do to improve it.
Could you start a business or at very least have a side business?
Could you perhaps look for another career?
What can YOU do to improve it?
Determine what the ideal situation would be and what you might be able to do about it. Then realize that you can indeed achieve whatever you want if you are willing to take action and work toward it.
2) Look after yourself. If you feel run down or stressed-out you are causing damage to your health whether you know it or not.
If you’re not healthy or don’t feel well, you are certainly not doing yourself any favours, not to mention your family or anybody else for whom you might be responsible.
Make sure you get enough sleep for one. A tired mind is almost always a negative mind. It’s very difficult to feel positive if you’re always worn out. (Take it from one who knows!)
Eat healthy, the way you fuel your body has a direct affect on your energy level. Anything you wish to achieve or change is going to be more difficult if you don’t have the energy to follow through.
Drink lots of water. This is a biggy… (as much as I hate to say it). I’m not a huge fan of drinking water, but I’ll tell you one thing: Downing a few glasses of water per day sure can perk you up.
Water can have the same effect on you as it can on a wilted bouquet!
3) Set Goals!
One of the best ways of making progress in order to take control of life is to set goals.
Then, once you’ve set some…don’t stop there!
Set Goals and mean it… then take action towards achieving them.
I find that the hardest part of goal setting is sitting still long enough to spend quiet time thinking. I find taking some time in solitude to clearly ponder and focus is essential for creating a plan of attack and is, in my humble opinion the foundation of effective goal planning.
Once you have determined what you wish to achieve, break the task(s) down into small achievable steps to avoid overwhelm.
Don’t ever think or assume any goal or dream is too ‘big’! just remember as Napoleon Hill said: “Whatever the mind can conceive it can achieve.”
4) Improve your confidence.
Improving confidence is Huge. With no confidence, it’s pretty difficult to believe in your personal power.
With no personal power, it’s doubtful you’ll muster the motivation to achieve the above mentioned goals.
One of my favourite ways of maintaining confidence is to remember that if others can accomplish great things, so can I.
While you are working towards taking control of life, start to act “as if”… in other words, spend a lot of time visualizing and taking steps to reach what you are seeing in your minds eye.
Then act ‘as if’ you’re already where you want to be!
Be unsinkable… even if at first the achievement is only in your mind! Before too long you will live in complete confidence, and this new way of thinking will become a newly set positive habit and eventually a way of life.
Not to mention if you follow the other suggestions above you’ll have the energy to bring you closer to achieving all of your goals, and taking control of life.
5) Sever Unhealthy relationships.
This sounds negative, I will admit… but it really isn’t. Not only is it sensible, it’s a must do step in order to follow through on your new journey.
If you have friends or acquaintances that have a way of distracting you and pulling you away from your focus, it won’t do you a scrap of good.
Besides unhealthy relationships are negative and will do nothing more than suck your positive energy out of you and squash your motivation.
If you choose to keep company with people who are not supportive, not only will it bring you down and distract you, they have a way of holding you back… then they’ll be controlling you instead!
Have the will power and determination to follow the above suggestions.
It’s not always easy at first, but it will become easier. Once you start to see a shift, you will start to feel much better.. and that’s where things really get good!
In closing, always remember that the world is your oyster and you have the power to change or accomplish anything you wish.
You are the only one on the planet who can take control of your life, if you won’t, nobody else can do it for you so it’s you who will have to step up to the plate!
If you would like the help of accountability partner to reach your goals or make some life changes, feel free to contact me at any time to roll around a few fresh ideas.