My 4 Year Anniversary as a Work at Home Mom!

by Jayne Kopp on July 31, 2011

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Today is my 4 year anniversary as a work at home mom.

Well, to be honest, I didn’t start being a WAHM immediately… but four years ago today I officially came home to raise my children … and I am so gob smacked at how fast time flies.

It’s funny really, because I never, ever thought that I would be anything other than married to my offline business (for the rest of my life…if truth be told!) :-|

When I think about it, it seems it all came about, seemingly as part of a natural transition. I believe that it was meant to happen in a funny sort of way… perhaps as a result of something that had ‘niggled’ me in the back of my mind.

I’m not saying I ‘willed’ it to be… subconsciously… but it had drifted in and out of my mind since the arrival of my children.

You see, both of my children were a surprise. Rosie came to join us in January of 2003 and Joe entered the world in September 2004.

Prior to the surprise of both my children (and yes, they were surprises…You’d think at 40 you’d know what ‘caused it! :-) ) I had spent a good decade and a half running a busy brick and mortar business with my then husband.

I can remember when I ‘got the news’ that Rosie was to join us, I wondered how the heck I was going to pull off being both a mom and working 12 hour days away from home.

Luckily my mom stepped up to the plate and became our full time nanny.

Things worked quite well, although I am sure my mom was knackered at the end of the day with two babies in diapers…. All I can say is that I sure appreciated her (and still do of course).

What I do remember, although it seems so long ago is that even though I was completely comfortable leaving my kids with my mom (naturally… I was blessed) … I always had deep pangs of guilt. Most of the guilt came from ‘missing out’ on my children’s growth.

At the time, I just accepted the fact that this was the way it was… and never in a million years dreamed that I would ever have the opportunity to spend proper quality time with the children.

I feared, in the back of my mind that I would look back (particularly when they reached their teens) and sorely regret not having taken the time to cease the moments with my kidlets and knew I would miss out on irreplaceable life experiences.

Then, in 2005 ‘things’ started to go sideways in our marriage. I am not sure if part of my issue might have been post-partum, but I was SO frazzled and exhausted all the time.

My husband at the time spent very little time at home. He did work hard, but the challenge was he rarely got home at a decent time for dinner so at the end of every 12+ hour day, I came home alone to deal with the children, (Plus I had two horses at the time to clean, feed and groom… as well as ‘try’ to squeak an hour in with the kids before I put them to bed).

After the children were in bed, I would go into my office and attack my ‘trusty’ basket of paperwork (from work) that I had to get caught up on. This usually took until at least 1-2 AM. Then I was up at 5am to do it all again.

The weekends were pretty much the same…after working a more than full time week at work (and believe me I was busy) I would find myself at home, alone with two babies in diapers and a pile of paper work (again from my ‘basket’ )… while my husband was either at work again (?) or doing his thing.

I was knackered and frankly had very little help at the time, hence felt very overwhelmed and very alone.

Naturally, there were many contributing factors but in 2005 things went from bad to worse, as a result of mistakes we both made in my opinion.

I managed to hang in there at the business and work with my husband in a very painful & negative environment until January 2007 when it became abundantly clear that ‘things’ just were not improving relationship wise, and the decision had to be made as to whether I would buy my ex out, he would buy me out, or whether we would liquidate.

I had the opportunity of forming a partnership with a friend who was experienced in our industry and it appeared for a while that I might buy my ex out and continue working. I was OK with the prospect of continuing with a partner, and it seemed this might just work out great.

Then as luck would have it my ex DH decided he would buy me out and offered something I could “live with”… although definitely less than I deserved… but in any event I then went on to help orchestrate a partnership between my husband and the fellow I was to be partners with instead.

This way, I felt I would have created a “win-win-win-win” situation. I would be home with the kids, my ex could continue to build our good, solid business, our friend would be part of an exciting and thriving business… and just as importantly my (our) loyal staff would still have secure employment..

Everything seems a little fuzzy now, but what I do remember is in 2007 I had booked the month of August off. Mostly for a sabbatical to be honest. I fully intended to return to work for a few months to make sure things ran smoothly after I left and to help with the transition of my exodus.

As it happened, my ex had different plans and while on my holidays I was advised that the ‘financing’ was complete for my buy out and the only thing left for me to do was sign off and pick up my cheque.

Though we had been going through months of litigation between lawyers…and I knew the day would come that I would walk out of the doors never to return, it was still shell-shocking to a degree!

In any event, I had to look at the bright side and that was that I now had the opportunity to be a stay at home mom – come “work at home mom” shortly thereafter.

It was definitely an adjustment for both me… and the company but funnily, if there is one thing I have learned in life it’s not to take yourself too seriously (LOL) and that nobody is indispensible. I guess that’s why I love the Sunscreen essay so much as it has a way of ‘tweaking your ego… anyway… sorry I digress…

Garshk… (I could think of another word or two) but these were horrendously difficult times for me… even now it hurts in a bittersweet sort of way.

I had lost so much weight from worry, heartache and stress that I am surprised I didn’t just drop dead on some days nearing the end of my tenure at my business.

In the fall of 2007 I decided to look into doing something online and ideas to become a “work at home mom”. Even though I had received a decent pay out, I was in no way on a retirement plan so I knew that I had better start looking into ways to earn for the future.

There were lots of little twists and turns and funny / coincidental chains of events, and I explain it better on my old site (one I haven’t looked at for at least a year or so). I explain the steps I took and how in the end I feel my business ‘found me” and how in a strange sort of way, I truly believe things all work out for a reason. You can read that story here if you like.

Eventually I was lead to a business opportunity in the personal development industry.

I chose this as my business for a couple of reasons: First of all, I needed some positive energy and something to help me lift my spirits… and this opportunity is a ‘program’ to ‘fix’ people first and foremost. I needed “change” and needed TO change in a big way, in the way of mindset, attitude, morale and health… so it definitely came at the right time for me!

Second, the business is legitimate, solid and includes an automatic business option attached to it and an excellent commission structure so I knew that if I worked at it, I could earn an income as many others do.

Third and quite importantly at the time is it has an 8 week money back guarantee.

Because I had no experience marketing a business online, I figured that a test run for 8 weeks would also give me time to get my feet wet to determine how to actually ‘market’ and was a fair ‘risk’ so to speak… so I dove in with both feet.

What I found is that it’s amazing what you can do if you put your mind to it. :-)

Within about 7 weeks, I had studied like a mad woman and managed to earn back my initial investment in a very short period of time.

I continued to learn and apply… and the rest is history. (Actually I’m still learning and applying… ha ha… but that’s just what life is about!!)

Has it all been a bed of roses? NO… not necessarily!

Has it been easy? Well… no, not really… but yes sort of! (lol) I find we can often make things much more difficult by ‘overthinking” and dawdling instead of just going for it!!

What I find is that putting thoughts into ‘action is harder than ‘doing’ the work.

Have I had to learn new things? Hell… YES… BUT … I have done far more difficult things in my life than learn how to market online!

There have been times when I have felt like tossing my laptop into the road… then driving over it just to make sure it’s dead…LOL :-) … but in the end it’s all how you look at it. (and I’m glad I didn’t kill my laptop… I need it!!) :-)

I have chosen to ‘enjoy” and have fun with this experience, and I find if you ‘relax’ and focus, nothing is as difficult as we can convince ourselves they are sometimes.

Today I find myself still marketing the same business and being a sponsor to help others; moms, dads and a variety of individuals ‘tweak’ their mindset & get their businesses up and running… this is of course on top of my blogging, coaching, more recently affiliate marketing… and so many awesome opportunities that have come out of this experience.

There are two reasons I am writing this post today. The first is to reflect and get a few sentimental thoughts out off my chest. Looking back at all these trials and tribulations is a little painful… but at the same time I do believe that many things do happen for a reason.

Also, as humans, we often find ourselves crashing and burning like I did … but if you really want to pull yourself out of it, you simply have to ‘go with it’ and surrender yourself to the natural chain of events, look for the positives that come out of it… and let the chips fall where they may.

I am also sharing this to prove that it’s never too late to start a business… in fact the right time to start a business is now… particularly if you’re surfing the internet daily and wasting your time procrastinating. We all know that nothing ‘good’ or effective comes out of that!

Sure, if I had known what I now today, I would have likely gotten started in this industry 10 years ago. The thing is I didn’t and things happened when they were supposed to.

I also wanted to emphasize that it is possible to take a bad situation and turn it into good if you really want to and you are willing to crack in, think positive and work towards improving on all levels of life.

I also think that most importantly its worth sharing that even though I would make ‘some’ changes, particularly to my relationship… (I would have tried harder to fix it) I have had to accept and forgive both myself and my ex, and simply count my blessings & be grateful for this opportunity to be a work at home mom… and it’s this experience that has made it worth while.

I started in this industry well into my 40’s… and while I may not be the most tech-savvy person on the planet, I have learned you don’t need to be.

You just need to be aware of your BIG why… and if being a work at home mom (or dad)is important enough, which I am sure it is if you’ve thought about it before… anything is possible. (Even if your nerves are ready to crack like an egg like mine were).

So many moms that I know are running around like farts in a wind tunnels shuffling kids from daycare to babysitters and can see no way out. I feel so fortunate to be able to absorb and enjoy as I do instead of simply seeing my kids go from ‘diapers to teenagers’ and not experiencing the ‘in between’ bits!.

Oh sure there are days when you are tired, you have things to do, both around the house and online for your business, but the bottom line is… kids come first and it’s very possible to adjust your schedule if you are serious about doing so.

I get up early on some days and do my blogging marketing and other activities, or stay up later on some nights after they are in bed.

This leaves the days open to play with them and absorb the wonderful memories we create together.

This summer has been awesome so far and frankly I find it amazing we are half way through the summer holidays already.

So far we have been up to our resort lot twice and we are heading up there again next week.

We bike ride, spend time at the water park, scooter (yes I have my own scooter) and can keep up with the best of ‘em…. Even though admittedly there are some days when I almost feel like putting the paddles to my dear heart to jump start it once again. ;-)

We bake, make jello, paint stuff :-| … I had the kids paint an outdoor patio set. I am not sure what had more paint on it at the end of the day… ‘it’ or ‘them’!

We also have tons and tons of play dates. My house is almost like ‘Club Med’ for kids. So much that I ended up installing synthetic turf in the back yard to cut down on the ‘muck’ caused by dozens of kids, dog, trampoline, swings, slide, and HUGE paddling pool.

Yes we have fun… and I wouldn’t change things for the world! I just know that even though selling my beloved business was truly a difficult decision, it was not nearly as heartbreaking as it would have been if I had not decided to be a work at home mom and if I had forfeited this time with my kiddies!

As parents (moms or dads) life is busy. Depending on the age of your kids, there might be school, field trips, activities (ours are cheerleading and karate at the moment)… plus maintaining a household.

Add work into the mix and quite frankly I am not sure what I would do if I had to keep up the pace I used to…. Well… I guess I would just ‘miss out’… because as we all know, the years come and go faster and faster!

The bottom line is, in life you do have to make sacrifices and take action to get what you want. Whether it’s making the ‘time’, making a monetary investment, adapting to life changes… or creating them… but always remember thatnothing is impossible if you are truly serious about taking control of your life!

Time is precious and we really all need to live in the moment and count our blessing for the gifts of our children.

I guess it’s because of my own gratitude that I have focused on helping moms stay at home and build businesses…. Not that I haven’t welcomed or appreciate the opportunity of working with others too… but I suppose because I am a WHAM that I tend to hook up with moms in similar boats.

In life … stuff happens. Sometimes it’s good, sometimes not so good… but at the end of the day things it’s up to us to manage to make all situations the best they can be and turn lemons to lemonade and realize that every cloud has a silver lining.

So many people over think things and allow themselves to be held back by self doubt or fear of failure.

The problem islife goes by pretty quickly and as I have said on umpteen occasions, at the end of it we are not going to look back and wish we had spent more time at the office and missed out even more on the growth of our children.

If I, in the middle of such a stressful situation (and believe me…. It was) can turn things around by being determined … anybody can.

Hmmm. Four years of being a stay at home mom. Who knew?

Well… I guess this rambling served as a release and shed some light on a little more of my history, but I sure hope it gave you some food for thought…

I also hope that if you are a mom or dad who has been diddling around “thinking” of being a stay at home parent that this might offer some encouragement for you to take action.

We are so lucky to have this great tool called the internet to reach all corners of the world from the comfort of our own homes. It’s a shame to stare a give horse in the mouth when you could be making good use of it.

If you need a hand getting started as a work at home mom or dad, contact me and let’s see if we can’t change your situation so in a year you too can celebrate an anniversary as I am today.

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Paul white August 18, 2011 at 1:15 am

Yes it is always a good idea to be with your kids in their young age to be their strength and make them a lot of things in life. Loved your decision to be with the kids rather then working.

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Jayne Kopp August 23, 2011 at 10:26 pm

HI Paul, thans for the comment. I have found I am well supported when people realize the sacrifice I made (business wise) to stay home with the children. I have to agree as well. The kids are only small once. I have lots of time to work when they have more independence and leave their old mom at home! :-)

Thanks for coming by.

Jayne

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Anna August 8, 2011 at 4:17 pm

Congratulations and thank you for sharing this great story of yours! I have always wondered how WAHMs were managing their lives and I must say that it looks like that you have succeeded pretty well! :D
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Jayne Kopp August 23, 2011 at 10:27 pm

Hi Anna, managing your life as a work at home mom is a continual work in progress. It’s not always a walk in the park, but it is a blessing to have the opportunity to do so.

Best

Jayne

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Easther August 7, 2011 at 7:40 pm

Hi Jayne
Congratulation on your anniversary, and what an inspiring story, thanks for sharing it.
Great things come out of hopeless situations. Congratulation once again and wishing you a long lasting success.

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Jayne Kopp August 9, 2011 at 8:24 am

Hey Easther, Nice to meet you! Thanks so much for stopping and listening to me ramble on and on….((yikes)).

Sorry for not getting back to you, I am in a place right now where internet connection is a challenging thing occasionally, hence hindering my ability to respond.

I appreciate you stopping by. Hope to see you again!

Best!

Jayne

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Catarina August 5, 2011 at 5:33 am

Jayne what an honest account and positive account of what you have experienced.

Agree with you completely that we can turn what looks like a setback into success. It’s also important not to blame others and become a victim. If you do you are doomed. How you handled the situation is an inspiration showing that what may seem difficult can be done. And not only done, but successfully achieved.

Well done Jayne!

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Jayne Kopp August 9, 2011 at 8:25 am

Hey Catarina,

Thanks so much for your uplifting comment. Sorry once again for slow response. I am up at the resort again which has un reliable internet!

I agree that one must never allow themselves to feel ‘victim’ like. You’ve just got to battle through and eventually the discomfort lifts.

See you soon

Jayne

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Rowena Bolo August 4, 2011 at 11:37 pm

Hey Jayne,

You are a lovely mom and your kids are awe-dorable! :-)

I would just like to say that your story is so fascinatingly encouraging and inspiring. I somehow know some parts of it when you shared about your brick and mortar biz in your old posts, but this post contains more lessons, thus I am sure if uplifts a lot of entrepreneurs again, especially WAHMs.

I can tell how very committed you were to your business, and it also saddens me to know that you felt that you missed out on the growth of your kids. That portion of the post, made me stop and truly contemplate on the future I am preparing for now. Thank you as you helped me to make my WHY even stronger. I love kids and I just know that, not only my future kids are part of my WHY, but also all my nieces and nephews. I get so emotional when I think of them.

Jayne, I am so happy for you. You were successful the moment you decided to develop yourself. What I especially admire is how you always remind people to not take life so seriously. I guess you’ll agree that personal development is indeed fun! :-)

- Rowena
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Jayne Kopp August 9, 2011 at 8:31 am

Hey Rowena, thanks so much for stopping by and I am sorry for not responding sooner but I am in Harrison where the internet is unstable.

I thankfully only missed out for a couple of years on the growth of my kids, and at least my mom was the full time nanny so I knew they were in good hands.

Yes kids definitely change your life… I am so pleased that even through I have definitely suffered my fair share, the rewards have been priceless.

We should always try to life life while we can and not sweat the small stuff. It often takes regular reminders to become good at it, but eventually it does stick.

Personal development sure beats the alternative. I feel in this day and age it is imperative.

lovely to see you.

Jayne

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Peppy | The PeppyWrites Chronicles August 4, 2011 at 9:26 pm

Hello Jayne,

A well-deserved congratulations on your anniversary! Jayne, you made choices that took immense courage – choices that showed a self-less-ness in many ways … you obviously have a head for business but you listened to your heart when it came to your children!

You must have carried around an incredibly heavy heart while trying to “keep everything going” – and yet, you haven’t allowed that pain to embitter you; instead, you share it as a way to help others.

Jayne, a touching and inspiring story – thanks for sharing this experience from your life because it shows what determination, hard work, and a good dose of humor can do!

Peppy
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Jayne Kopp August 9, 2011 at 8:33 am

Hi Peppy, Thanks for stopping by. Sorry for not getting back sooner but I am in Harrison where the internet connection in iffy. ((again)).

Thanks so much for stopping by to see me. I always feel uplifted when I see you!

Thanks for the kind words!

Jayne

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Lou Barba August 4, 2011 at 7:14 am

Hi Jayne,

The biggest tragedy of this story is the death of what was a deep romance. I often say that I would rather see a death in the family than a divorce. I know you have moved on, but your life is not what is was supposed to have been.

I can’t relate to being a wahm, but I congratulate you in your success and longevity. I agree that the internet enables us to have associations that are otherwise impossible. Keep it up, Jayne!

Lou
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Jayne Kopp August 4, 2011 at 5:32 pm

Thanks Lou for your encouragement. I feel in many ways that my life didn’t work out the way it was intended… after all you don’t get married to grow apart and get divorced. It’ something that I don’t believe anybody plans to do for sure.

With that said, I do believe life worked out well, and being that we are given choice… things do happen when we make the wrong ones.

I guess you can’t relate to being a wahm!! I am still glad you have seen the value in this awesome tool that we all have access to!

Thanks for stopping by.

Jayne

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Marcus Baker August 4, 2011 at 6:31 am

Hi Jayne,

Congratulations on your anniversary. I loved reading your inspiring story.

Life is an ongoing journey. We never arrive. It’s all about learning through contrast as we go. Because it never ends we have to ensure that we are having fun along the way and really doing what we want to be doing.

You are doing all of that Jayne. Well done to you and here’s wishing you continued abundance and blessings as you continue on your journey. :)

~Marcus
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Jayne Kopp August 4, 2011 at 5:34 pm

Hey Thanks Marcus for stopping by and the encouragement.

I am in full agreement that the road is long. Actually as the Sunscreen essay says, (or implies) we do need to just enjoy what we are doing… it says “the race is long and in the end it’s only with yourself” how powerful is that.

I am still not where I want to be result wise… but can’t complain for sure. The best part is I learn something new everyday. I feel to be just under that thin film of ice… and I just know it won’t be long before I break through it.

In the meantime, though I can’t work much towards my goals this summer, I am grateful to be allowing myself the take the time to play with my kids. After all… that’s what it’s all about!

Lovely to see you as always Marcus. My blog glows with energy when you’re on it!

Jayne

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Brankica August 3, 2011 at 6:19 pm

Jayne, this is amazing! At moments I felt like crying and at other, I felt like laughing. I am so glad it all turned out to be great. I can only imagine the stress you went through in those years.

I thought I will be married to my offline business forever as well. I loved it. It was something I wanted to do since I was 2. But my blue eyed prince came along and I didn’t care about anything anymore.

I love working from home and although no kids yet to distract me from it, I think my puppy is a good lesson on how it is going to be (well at least partially).

I just have no words to really explain how this post really resonated with me so I will just say congrats on spending time with the kids now and on making a whole new life at 40!
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Jayne Kopp August 4, 2011 at 5:39 pm

Hi Brankica! Wonderful to see you over here.

Funny, some parts of it made me laugh… and others have a ‘boohoo’ about too… LOL… sorry it was soooo loooooong. It was a good ‘shedding’ of ‘stuff’ though. My fingers had a good workout clicking away! :-)

I know all about Blue eyed princes! I had one too. :-( – now
I could think of other ‘titles’ ha ha. I do have a brown eyed one though! does that count?? :-)

Yes… I would say ‘puppy’s’ are a good indication of never having a moments peace… till they get to past the 3 year mark anyway.

I do have to say though kids are just as much fun and keep you going too! :-) … hurry up and find out!

Thanks for coming over here. I have taken some of your advice and answered comments that have been long overdue. Just getting to ‘yesterdays and todays’ now.

Next… “disclosure’ time! Already did a couple of my affiliate sites.

I’m just going to follow your list and do the ones I haven’t done yet. Thanks for keeping me in line!

Jayne

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broccoli soup August 3, 2011 at 2:28 am

I have really enjoyed by your personal sharing. Always keep in mind life always take turn and I have observed life is name of hardships and we should not stop at one success but we should instantly plan the second. By reading your post I have concluded that have potential.

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Maninder August 3, 2011 at 1:02 am

Quite detailed experience, Jayne. I found it quite touching, emotional and learning at the same time. I understand, what it takes to manage the relationships and work together so that none of them fails.
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Sherrie Koretke August 2, 2011 at 12:41 pm

Hi Jayne,
What an inspiring story. I loved reading it. Congrats on your anniversary. I’m looking forward to reading more about your business and you!
Sherrie
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Sarah Russell August 2, 2011 at 12:11 pm

Jayne – What a truly lovely and inspiring story (well, the end of your business and marriage weren’t likely lovely at all, but it’s what came out of them that counts…). Congrats a hundred times over for having the courage and strength to pursue a better life for you and your children – it’s clear from your post that it’s paid off big time!

And this is definitely a timely post for me to read, as my husband and I are talking about starting our own family. It’s probably a ways out yet, but I feel the same way you did – that I want a life for my children that doesn’t involve two parents stressed out from balancing kids and full-time jobs! Thanks for sharing your story :)
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Jayne Kopp August 3, 2011 at 1:48 am

HI Sarah, thanks so much for your kind words.

After reading your story, you have your head well-wrapped around being grateful for life and living in the moment. That’s what it’s all about… and when you do decided to start a family, you will find it’s the best gift from God you could ever ask for… and you will have an even clearer perspective… particularly when you notice them grow like weeds.

If I were to die tomorrow (Heaven forbid)… I would not want my kids to feel they never had a chance to know me… and I want them to know the sacrifices I made all for them as a token of my love.

You’ll see! :-) I can’t wait till you ‘get started’ in the family department!! It’s SO awesome.

Lovely to see you.

Jayne

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SEO Company Los Angeles August 2, 2011 at 11:42 am

Jayne -

My dad worked from home during my childhood, and I have to say that I feel like it had SUCH a positive impact on my growing up. It’s great that you’ve worked from home to be with your kids, and I think many people out there could learn from your example!! :)

-Natasha

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Jayne Kopp August 2, 2011 at 11:58 am

HI Natasha, Thanks so much for visiting. It’s a pleasure to meet you.

I always appreciate re-enforcement. Many people have told me how pleased they were when their parents stayed home with them. It is really re-assuring and solidifies the fact that I made the right decision.

Thanks so much for stopping. I’ll pop over to yours before too long.

Best

Jayne

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Adrienne August 2, 2011 at 10:42 am

Happy anniversary Jayne and congratulations on the 4 year mark. Sounds like it’s a true success.

I really enjoyed you sharing such a personal experience with us. I’m sorry your marriage ended because I love seeing the happily ever after but I also know from experience that sometimes it’s just not meant to be. I also believe that everything happens for a reason and it sounds like you were very open to whatever came your way and because of that, this particular opportunity found you and aren’t you thrilled about that!

I won’t comment on the long hours and the “what use to be your life” because that’s behind you and you are a much better person now because of those experiences. I don’t like to look back, I only like to look forward.

Your life sounds so wonderful. Having a successful online business and able to stay at home and be with your children. I know you are able to show others how they can do the same. That’s what’s so wonderful about this business.

Loved the picture by the way, you have a very beautiful family.

Appreciate you sharing this with us and have a wonderful day Jayne.

Adrienne
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Jayne Kopp August 3, 2011 at 1:50 am

Thanks so much Adrienne for your compliments and for visiting.

I love my beautiful babies… and although I’m not quite where I’m going… I’m having a lot of fun getting there!

I am sure “most” things happen for a reason. I am capitalizing on that as it’s what gave me to power not to stare a gift horse in the mouth as I said!

Lovely to see you… and you are right, yesterday was not just another ‘monday’… I hope you had a wonderful birthday!

Jayne

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Dr. Bob Clarke August 2, 2011 at 4:25 am

Jayne, you are such an inspiration and you tell such an amazing story of your life. As they said back in the ’70s, “you came a long way, baby!”

You know, I was just over at Lou’s great storytelling blog and one of his characters in his story said, “God always hears our prayers, we just don’t always hear his answer.” Your story reminded me of this, in a way.

God definitely had a plan for you back then when you were going through your hard times, and you had the strength and courage to weather the storm and find his direction for you.

Thanks for sharing your very personal story.
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Jayne Kopp August 3, 2011 at 1:53 am

Hi Bob… Thanks so much for your compliments. Yes… the ride was bumpy at first but it’s all what you make of it.

I loved that on Lou’s blog too…“God always hears our prayers, we just don’t always hear his answer.”

I do believe there is truth to that!

Thanks Bob… and speaking of coming a long way… look at you go!

See you soon!

Jayne

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Jayne Kopp August 2, 2011 at 12:06 am

Hi Ankesh, thanks for stopping by. Yes, you do have to just DO it… as you cannot plan absolutely everything. Planning is good… but not to plan so much we remain stagnant.

Thanks again

Jayne

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Eddie Gear August 1, 2011 at 9:16 pm

I would consider that would be a good success. Congratulation.
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Jayne Kopp August 3, 2011 at 1:51 am

Thanks so much Eddie! Lovely to have you over here! Do come back and visit occasionally!

Jayne

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Mavis Nong | Underground Blogging Secrets August 1, 2011 at 5:53 am

Hey Jayne,

Wow! What an inspiring story. Thanks for sharing your personal story with us. How long did it take you to write it? :)

It’s amazing how things turn out in life, isn’t it? Great things come out of hopeless situations.

Congratulations, Jayne! Wishing you many more years of lasting success!

Mavis
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Jayne Kopp August 1, 2011 at 11:55 pm

Hi Mavis.. yes… sorry it was a bit looooonngg … funnily it just flew off the keyboard. It didnt take long to write. Perhaps I just needed to ‘release’ LOL.

I’ll try to spare you on the next one. :-)

It is amazing though how things turn out.

I am not quite where I want to be… but I will be and that’s all that matters. Every day has a new experience and a whole new slew of possibilities.

Thanks for stopping by.

Jayne

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Melody | Deliberate Receiving August 1, 2011 at 5:20 am

Hi Jayne,

What an inspiring story! Even though I don’t have children, I can still relate. There was a time in my life when I worked myself to within an inch of a nervous breakdown – even without kids. I worked 120 hours a week, only slept every other day, ate at work, even took caffeine pills one day to try and stay awake (they made me really sick). If a good friend hadn’t stepped in and pointed out to me what I was doing, I might’ve landed myself in the hospital. I truly couldn’t see it on my own. That was quite a few years ago now, and I look back on that person as though she was someone else. She was…
I think you should be so proud of the situation you’ve created for yourself. You enjoy your children and make your money doing something you’re passionate about. and, you no longer forget about yourself in the process. You’re truly inspiring. :)

Hugs,
Melody
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Jayne Kopp August 1, 2011 at 11:57 pm

HI Melody, thanks so much for your kind comment.

I can relate to your situation… as mentioned. Even before kids, all I did was work, work, work. Even in my earlier days, I did the same and worked my bottom off to the point of stupidity.

Now I definitely have my priorities set. You have to, otherwise you miss out on the simple things in life.

Thanks again. You’ve lifted me up! It’s almost midnight here.. so I”m lagging.

see you soon

Jayne

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Rachael Slorach August 1, 2011 at 5:19 am

wow Jayne, you are very brave to bare your soul and life story to your readers. But you are right, in doing so you do prove to anyone thinking that they want their own home business that it is achievable. I understand completely what it means to be home with your children to share their young lives and discoveries – but also how to fit in working an internet business around them (early mornings and late nights). But it is totally worth it! I am currently on maternity leave from a ‘day’ job but planning to build my business up to a point where I do not have to return.
Good Luck and Congratulations on the milestone.
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Jayne Kopp August 2, 2011 at 12:00 am

Hi Rachael. I think it’s helpful to share my personal info as first of all, there’s no secrets here… and I know there are so many moms and dads in the same boat. I think being ‘human’ helps people connect when they see similarities.

I wish you the best of luck building your business. I know you can make this happen and not have to return. Just keep going, and going…. it’ll fall into place.

Jayne

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Oliver Tausend August 1, 2011 at 2:47 am

Hi Jayne,

what an inspiring story, thanks for sharing it and congrats to you anniversary.

Well, even though I am not a mother but a father ;-) I can totally relate to your story. Only two years ago, I was married to my offline business that I didn’t even think about alternatives.

I coudn’t stand it any longer and I had to change something. The problem is that we always take our work conditioning with us (unless we change it of course). That means, I applied a similar work ethic to my new business, sometimes even worse because the internet runs 24/7 and does never sleep.

But if you work like a maniac in a people’s business, it doesn’t work because you crowd out attraction. That’s what I did. Did. In the past.

By the way, beautiful picture…

Take care

Oliver
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Jayne Kopp August 2, 2011 at 12:05 am

Hi Oliver, yes, I know you had similar experience. I read all about it and could relate on so many levels.

Working for yourself at home is also easy to become addicted to. I just do my best to balance it out.

as you may have noticed this summer I have ‘balanced’ quite well. Mostly the Kiddie side has outweighed the business this far! Oh well… before too long they’ll be back in school… so I’m enjoying it while I can.

Thanks for the compliment on the picture. We were in Mexico.

See you soon.

Jayne

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Ankesh Kothari August 1, 2011 at 1:53 am

Hi Jayne;
Thank you sharing your story with us. I happen to agree with your point about over thinking. It’s better to just get up and do something than keep thinking about doing things. Thinking and planning have their place, but before starting on a new path you rarely have enough information for effective planning.
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Jayne Kopp August 2, 2011 at 12:07 am

Hi Ankesh, thanks for stopping by. Yes, you do have to just DO it… as you cannot plan absolutely everything. Planning is good… but not to plan so much we remain stagnant.

Thanks again

Jayne

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