Did You Know One Split Second Decision Can Change Your Life?

by Jayne Kopp on October 30, 2011

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One split second decision can change your life

We’re often reminded that  life can change in a split second.

I’ve often said it when referring to unfortunate events, ie. Car accidents, etc…but rarely had I taken inventory of all the positive’s that also come out of spur of the moment decisions as well.

I’ve been reflecting on the many of  my own positive outcomes due to making some split second decisions and how when I made them I never could have dreamed what lie in store.

Thinking back a few years ago (quite a few years ago to be honest  ;-)  ) I  left a long time position as a catering manager/wedding planner at a local  hotel.

I simply decided one night that if I continued to work the gruelling hours.. day in, day out… including every weekend, I would likely never have the opportunity to experience my “own” wedding… as I would be too busy working and  spending my time planning everybody elses! :-|

When I began to look for alternate  employment I didn’t really have anything specific in mind except that whatever JOB I took had to have ‘reasonable’ hours (ie: 8-4pm or 9-5… with weekends OFF!).

I turned to the classified “help wanted ads” and called a few of them for interviews.  Out of all the positions I applied for there were only one or two that really appealed to me.  A couple of these positions however were not ‘ready’ to hire immediately but I was open to waiting for a while in any event.

Then, one afternoon, right out of the blue, I received a call from a company responding to a message I had left. (It was not a ‘call back’ from a previous interview, nor one of the jobs I was hoping to land).  It was in fact one of those jobs that you simply ‘don’t care’ if you get it one way or the other.

Futhermore,  I was asked if I could go in immediately for a meeting.  I can remember asking myself if I really wanted to bother with it as to be honest, it didn’t sound appealing and frankly I had better things to do with my afternoon that day! :-)   (I BTW had earned the time off so I really wasn’t being lazy…just sayin…!)

I decided to suck it up and just go to to the interview anyway,  regardless of not really ‘feeling like it’ at that particular  moment..

The company was an industrial equipment company; not too enticing to be honest and the pay could have been  a bit better.

One the upside however, the people were super nice  and there was ample room for advancement as well as the opportunity to learn a few new skills.

I was offered the position on the spot.

In that split second I reflected on the jobs I would have ‘preferred’ from the previous interviews  and even though… if truth be told, I would have rather waited to hopefully land one of those,  instead for some peculiar reason I decided to accept the position right there.

Driving home I had mixed emotions to be honest because it really didn’t tickle my fancy the way I had envisioned this ‘new beginning’ might.

Little did I know, this would be a  huge turning point for me so  much  that my life would be forever changed due to that spur of the moment decision.

A few weeks into my job, one of the technicians (who I thought was “a bit of alright” ;-) ) was called out of town on a job.  As it happened, it was one of my responsibilities to book the flights and arrange all travel details for the company.

I had the opportunity to get to  know him (casually) and learned that he grew up in my home town.  Funnily I knew his mom and even a couple of his siblings (from a distance) and  had even heard his name around town before, but never  met him in person until starting this new job. (Our town is small too… so it’s a bit bizarre!)

Because he was to be away for a couple of weeks, I offered to take his car to his parents house  (I knew where they lived)  as it would be safer than it would parked in the parking lot in the ‘seedy-ish’ area where we worked.  (There was a lot of crime at  night in those parts)

He gratefully accepted my offer and handed me his keys.

That night I went home in my own car and asked my mom to drive me back out to work so I could retrieve his car and bring it back.

A few days later it was my birthday and when I got home from work, there on my doorstep were two dozen red roses from ‘this fellow’.  He had somehow found out it was my birthday and ordered the roses to be delivered while he was working away.

Little did I know at the time that  on his return I would accompany him on many dates and eventually become his wife!

Who knew?  That a series of split second decisons (accepting the job was the start, and making the flirtatious offer to bring his car home) would have lead to marriage? :-)   It really wasn’t in my plans at all!

Obviously, I could go on about all the wonderful experiences I’ve enjoyed because of it.

For example, we actually started our own ‘industrial equipment company together and went into competition with our ‘old bosses’!  luckly we remained friends with them (phew)… and we went on to do VERY well.

In fact we did well in many areas together… and course we were eventually blessed further with our two beautiful children.

Unfortunately we’ve both made choices that were not ideal, hence we divorced after 15 years of  life together which is still difficult to deal with.

On the upside other new choices and actions have caused  many new opportunities  to surface all because in my opinion,  I chose to focus on the positives and stay open minded to the new possibilities.

For example, since I had sold my shares in our business,  I  decided to create a few other life changes of my own and look for ways to be a stay at home mom which lead me to start an online business.

These moves were on the spot; I can remember distinctly scouring the internet for ‘ways to earn’   … and one fine evening finding  my business opportunity and just knowing it was one of those opportunities I knew I couldn’t resist so in a millisecond jumped in head first.

I clearly remember pressing the submit button … and thinking “ok Jayne… make it happen kid!” …

 

…Little did I know then that this move would lead me in a  number of different directions and  down many paths I could have never imagined back then.

I also know that things might be very different  if I didn’t make those choices to change my life when I did.

Since then I have not only learned a great deal about internet marketing, but also have trained  many others who have chosen the same route.

Currently I am in the process of completing a book I’ve been writing that is to be part of a success series.  I also went on to hire a coach and as a result a few months ago commenced building my coaching business as well and became a coach myself.

On the side, I have started a few niche sites and learned a great deal about affiliate marketing (and thoroughly enjoyed it).

Best of all I am so full of gratitude for the many long term relationships I have developed with wonderful friends from around the globe!.

I am blessed to be a stay at home mom and coach many other ladies who are either working towards or currently doing the same.

My point of sharing all of this is that none of it  would have happened if I hadn’t made that split second decision to accept the job that I wasn’t initially crazy about!

Oh yes… there are many things I have done that I would have tweaked if I could… but there are also many changes for the better that have simply boiled down to choices I have made on the spot!  The ones I have shared are  just a small sampling!

I have always believed that life is too short  not to enjoy the  moment, in fact time flies by too quickly to risk missed opportunities simply because perhaps the fear of failure is holding you back.

If there are things you have always wanted to do, or if you are similar to the dozens of people I talk to each week who are overthinking getting started in a home business, I would encourage you to get clear on your goals and stop making excuses and get serious about success.

Approach the  world with your eyes wide open and take it from me that one split second decision can change your life in ways you wouldn’t want to pass up as you never know what is around the next corner!  Follow your gut and don’t
take yourself too seriously; just use common sense and live life to its fullest!
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{ 25 comments… read them below or add one }

Azhar November 19, 2011 at 11:56 am

You have done right decision at right time.It is a great change in your life because of one decision.Your story is interesting and full of advice.

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Jayne Kopp November 21, 2011 at 1:50 pm

Thanks Azhar. Glad to see you here. One decision can certainly bring many positive if we remain open to them being that way!

Jayne

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Stacy November 18, 2011 at 1:36 pm

Hi Jayne,

That is a very interesting story indeed! It’s nice when split second decisions change our life for the better! I’m one who likes to weigh things out and think about it for a while so my experience in this somewhat limited! I used to wait 2 weeks before I bought something to make sure that I *really* needed/wanted it!

I’m more spontaneous than I used to be and you’ve given me reason to keep growing in that area!

Take care,
Stacy

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Jayne Kopp November 21, 2011 at 1:49 pm

Hi Stacy, lovely to see you. I have been away frolicking on the beaches of Cabo this last week, so I am back to the grind! :-) Sorry I didn’t respond sooner. I am just playing catch-up.

Split second decisions can definitely change your life for the better if you are willing to look for the positives and not take things so seriously.

I have also made decisions that have not felt great at the time… but again… that open mind can find the hidden positives if we remain open to the possibilities.

My divorce as you know has really taken it’s toll. Again it was I suppose a split decision in the end, even though it had lingered for a while. Though still saddened as you know, I have been able to recognize the many positives that have arisen that would have never appeared if I had not tweaked the old mindset and moved forward with subsequent decisions after the fact.

As far as purchasing things… I guess it all depends on what ‘it’ is. I think your two week wait time can come in handy sometimes. I have made spontaneous purchases that I have wished I waited on! :-) as well as a few I am glad I dove in and acquired. Sometimes these can go one way or the other! :-)

Jayne

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Tisha November 16, 2011 at 7:23 am

Yeah, a split second decision can change your life forever. It all depends on how you look at it. As long as we accept our decision, learn and find joy in the experience, only then special surprises be given to you for your efforts. I love your romance story, Jayne. Your husband was closer than you thought. lol He was piratically on your door step. :-)

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Jayne Kopp November 21, 2011 at 1:39 pm

Hi Tisha, I agree much has to do with perspective and how we choose to see the outcome. Changes can be positive or negative, but if we choose to look for the positives… they are there in most cases even if hidden.

My husband was closer than I thought and although eluded to the fact that I thought I would never have my own wedding… It really wasn’t what I was looking or so immediate!! :-) at least I didn’t think so.

Today, even though he is not my husband anymore and even though I AM sad about that… I have realized that the decisions made to put us in this position still have affected our lives… and there are still positives that have arisen. For example… the decision to come home to spend with my kids and work online would have never happened without the split second decisions made a while back.

Lovely to see you. Like the new gravatar! :-)

Jayne

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Tosin November 8, 2011 at 1:53 pm

Hi Jayne,

Quite interesting! Found it incredible that you could know almost anyone in your town. That was cool. Do those kind of town still exist?

It’s so true that our journey in life is influenced by split-second decisions and that’s why, like you said, we must always make sure we enjoy the moment.

I have always come to realize that we must never hold on so much to the past, especially when it is unpleasent, that we refuse to move on confidently to the future. No matter what happens to us we can use the experiences to become better.

Thanks for sharing :)

Tosin

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Jayne Kopp November 9, 2011 at 10:08 am

Hi Tosin, actually, our town isn’t as small now as it was then. It sure was nice though back in the day when everyone more or less knew everyone. With that said, those of us who grew up here are still very close.

Letting go of the past is a huge step particularly when there are negative situations. With that said, we must try to work at it. We only waste energy trying to change what has already happened. We are better served to creating positives for the future to over ride the pain of the past.

Best

Jayne

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Lesa November 8, 2011 at 12:43 pm

Every decision we make effects our lives in many known and unknown ways. We could let this reality stress us out to the point that we can’t make any kind of decision… or we can embrace possibility in each decision as it appears. The trick to making sound decisions is to listen for that inner guidance… you know, that voice that says, “what have you got to lose?” or “answer that phone” or “email this person today” or “take this job.” It’s when we rush through life ignoring this inner guidance that the decisions we make don’t turn out well.

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Joyce Oladipo November 8, 2011 at 2:12 am

Thanks for sharing this inspiring story.

I remember when I was pregnant with my second child I felt a lump in my breast. Thanks goodness it wasn’t cancer or anything serious for that matter but still it to was the scariest moment of my life. It was at that point that I made a decision to make my life positively memorable.

You never know what can change the course of our lives and if we don’t make an impart in some little way, what is our purpose for being.

I’ve made it an obligation to give 1€ a day to someone else, at lease am creating magical moments in someone else lives and that’s good for me.

Thanks for sharing this lovely post.

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Jayne Kopp November 9, 2011 at 10:05 am

HI Joyce, I am glad you are well.. and the lump was a scare. Funny though isn’t it how a ‘scare’ can force your to take a look at your life and change direction.

What a nice gesture … helping others the way you do. Small actions can be huge for many. Keep up the great outlook.

Jayne

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Lou Barba November 5, 2011 at 5:34 am

Hi Jayne,

Arrrgh!! Your post is a real eye opener. I’m not sure whether it makes me want to live on the basis of split second decisions or not! :) But then, looking back at my own life, (I’m about 63) all I’m sure of is that some of my decisions were good and some were bad. Hopefully the rest of our lives will be influenced by the GOOD choices we have made.

Lou

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Jayne Kopp November 7, 2011 at 2:01 pm

Hi Lou, sorry to make you scream. I would live on the basis of split second decisions all over again. Course I would tweak where I could knowing what I know now. I do believe though that with the right attitude, life does turn out the way it’s supposed to. As long as we do the right thing where possible… we have to let go of the fact that sometimes as mere mortals, we can make mistakes.

Jayne

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Alan Cheng November 3, 2011 at 8:08 pm

Jayne,

I really enjoyed reading this. It reminded me of so many things decisions that have changed my life:

- First time holding the hand of the girl who became my wife
- Deciding to contact a marketer who would become my partner
- Deciding to create a product which the market loved
- etc…

The worst decision one can make is not taking action on improving life.

Great post Jayne!

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Jayne Kopp November 7, 2011 at 2:02 pm

Hi Alan, that is what adds to the excitement of ‘always being ready’ because we never know how our actions will impact the outcome. As long as we do things with the right intentions, there’s lots of life to be enjoyed and lots of opportunities that arise.

Jayne

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Jeff Faldalen November 2, 2011 at 2:40 pm

Hi Jayne,
Great Post, thoroughly enjoyed reading it.

Its decision’s that shape our destiny. The cool thing is we learn
from everyone we make

When I am coaching people, I always saying “Be a student of opportunity”

It is amazing how one decision can change your life. I have been thinking about writing a post on this subject and after reading yours I have to :)

Best wishes,
Jeff

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Jayne Kopp November 3, 2011 at 1:40 pm

Hi Jeff, I love your saying. We do have to look at everything as an opportunity, and as you say we do learn from everything we do. The good, bad and ugly! As long as we do look at things with the right attitude, things have a way of working out for the better.

Thanks for your encouragement.

Jayne

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Rachael Slorach November 2, 2011 at 2:24 am

Hi Jayne,

I am a big romantic so I loved your story. I love all stories about meeting ‘the one’. For me, it was the decision to travel to Thailand with my girlfriends backpacking that led me to my hubby (who was from an Australian town I had never heard of so would never have gone there). This town – Mildura – is now my home.

It is very interesting to think about decisions or moments that create our fate. Thanks for sharing.

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Jayne Kopp November 3, 2011 at 1:42 pm

Hi Rachael, I’m with you on the ‘romantic’ side. Unfortunately mine did not have the fairy tale ending that it should have had, but things still worked out the way they were intended for my life any way. Thats not saying I would not do a few things different… but then, I may never have taken the path I have.

Its funny what happens when we least expect it.

Jayne

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Rafael November 2, 2011 at 1:12 am

Hi Jayne!
You’re so right. Sometimes everything can change in a blink of an eye. And it’s really difficult to guess when it may happen. All I can add is that we should live right now and be ready for everything. One never knows what may happen next.

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Jayne Kopp November 7, 2011 at 1:58 pm

HI Rafael, yes we should always be ready for anything… but more particularly, opportunities that arise when we least expect it. I like to all it ‘living with your eyes wide open’… and in fact, I will be doing a post on this in the near future.

Lovely to see you. Thanks so much for taking the time to comment.

Best :-)

Jayne!

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Ryan Biddulph November 1, 2011 at 11:59 pm

Awesome stuff here Jayne!

All things happen in the moment. Our decisions in the moment alter our lives, instantly. Keep this in mind before moving forward today. The unlimited power within you to mold your life hinges on your choices.

Thanks for sharing!

RB

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Jayne Kopp November 3, 2011 at 1:43 pm

HI Ryan, could not have said it better myself! How’s Bali treating you? Thanks for taking the time to visit me.

Jayne

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Harleena Singh October 30, 2011 at 11:05 pm

Hi Jayne,

Loved the post!

This is so very true- things do change in a single split-second, and so do people! Like your story about the changes and likewise our family underwent a bad accident. That sure was a turning point in all of our lives, as that very split-second was where we could have lost our lives.

I guess each moment of the day we learn something new, learn to be grateful, learn to love and live life a little better than before.

Thanks for sharing :)

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Jayne Kopp November 1, 2011 at 12:04 pm

Hi Harleena, lovely to meet you.

I agree wholeheartedly… and understand that ‘bad’ things can also happen in a split second. I am glad you were able to escape the alternative!

We really do need to practice gratitude and be thankful for every moment we are blessed to experience.

Jayne

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