If you’ve made the decision to make positive changes this year, I hope you’re practicing the art of forward thinking rather than staying stuck in the past.
The reason I’m discussing this topic today is because I ran into a lady at the grocery store the other day who is aware I work full time online.
She asked me how things were going with business and I know she was genuinely interested because she called me last year a couple of times to ask questions and considered starting a business herself.
Naturally, I told her the truth, that things were great … and then asked her how things were going in her world.
Her response was ‘ok I guess… but I haven’t done anymore on the business end of things’….
I said “oh and why’s that?”
She said “well, ya know, last year was such a rough year for me” (she split with her husband LAST January which is a shame of course), “and you know, I’ve been thinking about it, but I’ve never really done anything like this before, it’s all new to me”….
Then she went on to say that she never did well “writing essays and such….and didn’t really know how she’d do writing articles or building a site’….
She also told me that she still felt dragged down with the after effects of her family situation…but… then she said…. “but I’m still really interested in getting started and have a few good ideas and have and have been thinking about it”
Ah ha! (I thought)… ‘She’s stuck in the past’…I then thought to myself “if she’s been thinking about it… it certainly hasn’t been purposeful”…
Before we parted she told me she’d made a resolution to make some changes and improve this year and was still really interested in getting started online. Hmmm… how fitting I thought… she may have made a resolution but certainly not a decision to make it happen’
Now don’t get me wrong, I know all about the stresses of unfortunate family situations. (In fact, I could be the New York Bestseller on the topic)… In fact… come to think of it… that’s one heck of an idea… perhaps I’ll consider that as one of my next projects
Seriously though, I know how heartache and stress can definitely knock the stuffing out of you and leave you feeling like an energy less blob. (Really I do).
I also know how it feels to have struggled in some areas of life or felt a little intimidated at the thoughts of trying something new.
Her fears pertain to writing… my challenge is ‘tech stuff’.
The point is though, how long is she going to stay stuck in a rut and stuck in the past and let it hold her back from enjoying life the way she should?
You see, all change has to start with being a forward thinker (opposed to a looking back). Then stick to a decision to move forward regardless as to whether you’re venturing into new and unchartered territory.
None of us can change the past. What’s happened has already happened and sadly there is no ‘rewind’ on life. I know it isn’t always uplifting and can indeed be very challenging, but unless you want to stay frozen in bad feelings, memories and everything else, you have to decide you’re going to implement the art of forward thinking and look to the future not over your shoulder.
The truth is most people do experience pain and hurdles at some point during life, but if we all just curled up in the fetal position and did nothing and didn’t exert the effort to re-design the future, we’d all be stuck at home every day, eating chocolates and watching reruns of Oprah with a big box of Kleenex and an overflowing garbage can.
Everything would come to a halt and we’d all be flat and very depressing!
Anyway, I think you get my point.
So how do you start “forward thinking”?
In short, you have to come to terms with what ‘has been’ and realize there’s nothing anyone can do to reverse it. You then need to look forward to what lies before you and each and everyone of us and look for new things that will reward you and make you happy and fulfilled.
You have to visualize how you’d like your ideal life to look and then plan the steps (as direct as possible) in order to get there.
Don’t worry about each and every detail… or the fact you may be inexperienced when it comes to performing some of the tasks you may need to tackle along the way. You’ll learn the things you need as you go, but you just need to start where you are and use what you have and personal belief you can achieve whatever it is you dream about. (Because you can!)
It’s all about picking ourselves up and brushing ourselves off and getting on with ‘it’… what ever ‘it’ is.
We live in a time were (in most countries) there is an abundance of opportunity. If you’re reading this post right now… you live in one of those countries.
We can always improve! Even if you’re not thinking about making financial or business changes… even if you just want to… let’s say… feel better and improve your life…. OR..you’d like to lose weight or get fit… (The list goes on) everything starts with adjusting your outlook and tweaking the way your think… then taking action on your thoughts.
Ok, so my acquaintance hasn’t taken any steps to start a business she’s thought about for over a year because she’s had a rough time with her marriage failing at the beginning of last year. So… can she fix it by staying imobile?? (Answer: Nope!)
So then what are her options?
Well… she is going to have to become a forward thinker and look to the future…not the past. She is going to have to make the decision to improve. She is going to have to accept what has happened and then OPEN HER EYES to everything else that can help her design a better life not stay blinded by her grief.
The long and short is she is going to have to suck it up and start writing to improve her skills or find an alternate way of sharing her knowledge (if she’s serious about success).
She’s going to have to either learn to build a site or get someone to do it for her.(Again, if she want’s to do what she says she does).
If this is truly her desire, she has to get unstuck from the past limiting beliefs and barriers that she has allowed to hold her captive and MOVE.
Hey… I know all about dwelling on the past and know the feelings are real. Been there, one that, bought the whole series of T-shirts and I’ll be the first to admit it’s quite painful and takes energy to break free of the stronghold.
What I can tell you though is that when I decided to make changes and become a forward thinker… and made the decision to improve I regained that energy and found more zest for life.
I do acknowledge the fact that we’re all different but for me the change occurred when I participated in a personal development program and subsequently learned to market the attached business opportunity. For me, this helped me make both personal and financial change and the clouds parted and the sun began to shine again and with every step I took, the more opportunities I discovered.
I had to ignore the fact that in the past I’d done nothing techy… other than send and receive emails… (on good days with an attachment) and face the challenges head on to learn what I needed to do. Funnily, things are never as difficult as you can talk yourself into believing they are.
I had to remind myself that nobody is born with the knowledge or built in talent to do anything… and that everything new has to be learned… and can be.
This forward thinking attitude applies to any area of life.
If you want to lose weight and change your diet… you’re going to have to education yourself on a new lifestyle change pertaining to the way you eat.
If you want to start get fit and start working out, you’ll have to join a gym and get help or hire a personal trainer to show you the ropes.
If you wanted to start a new hobby… lets say “pottery”… you’re going to have to take the steps to learn the art of doing so.
If you want to reorganize your life … or even your house… you have to think ahead and envision and plan the things you need to do and then take action to make it work.
You might suck hugely at first… but its all part of the conquering process and it will fall into place once you get moving!
What I can tell you is that once the wheels are in motion, you get better and will feel happier and more fulfilled as your attention will be focused on your new accomplishments and the past will fade and become less prevalent in your current existence.
Forward thinkers look ahead and open their eyes to what can be. They acknowledge what needs to be changes and take the steps to make it happen.
Over thinking your shortfalls or playing the violin about past failures or weaknesses won’t do a bloody thing for your self worth, self esteem or current situation.
If you want this year… or any year to be the year you change your life for the better, look ahead to what lies before each and every one of us. Change your mindset, determine the skills you need to learn or the steps you need to take and move forward. You can make anything happen if you want and all it takes is a split second decision to change your life!
Again, for the final time…(sounding like a parrot now) …Nobody can change the past so there’s no use in staying there. Nobody can change you… except you. So use that noodle between your ears, and get moving, regardless of what it is you wish to achieve. The futures bright… walk into the light and you will definitely feel the shift in your outlook but only if you keep your eyes open to what can be rather than what was!
Incidentally, I know I’ve repeated myself in different ways but they say people need to hear things a few times over before the penny drops. I’m hoping that hammering this message home will help the point sink in to the ‘loaves’ of those who need a push.