In my last post “The Law of Attraction is Working For You – Like it or Not”, I promised to share a few occurrences in my own life… the good, bad and plain ugly!
I, like many people, have experienced a series of “up’s and downs” and when I look back now, its plain to see the only reason any of them materialized is because I attracted it.
Oh, yes… I know you’re likely at this point rolling your eyes and thinking “oh here she goes with the Law of Attraction stuff again”.
If this is the case, I’m hoping you will just bear with me so I can explain.
First of all, I’m not an “off the wall” person who spends my time tiptoeing through the tulips singing the praises of the Universal Laws, in fact many people I meet don’t hear anything about my ‘personal development business’ or my belief systems… that is unless of course they ask.
To be honest with you, over the years I have spent most of my life just living, and running my offline business… that is of course until I sold my shares to come home and stay with my children.
I will admit up front however, that in my younger days particularly I was incredibly successful. It just seemed (well, actually it didn’t seem”.. it was) that anything I set my mind to, no matter how ‘out there’ the idea may have been, it just worked. (And worked well!).
I tend to believe, however that as life goes on and as we are exposed to more and more new experiences, and at one time or another, each and every one of us might encounter something that sends us for a loop and might even bring us to our knees.
I believe that due to a few experiences that dampened my moral… the “Midas Touch” I used to have became less prevalent in my life… and there is a reason for that.
You see, back in the good old days, I just thought I was incredibly blessed … and maybe even lucky. Now of course, because I understand beyond a shadow of a doubt that my attitude had more to do with my successes than my smarts or capabilities… it all makes perfect sense.
Here are a few examples of the things I accomplished (some at a very young age that left others ‘gob-smacked”). As I lead you through, you’ll begin to see the decline in my ‘luck’ (so to speak) and you might even be able to see why… but you’ll also see how I was able to turn things around to get me to where I am today which is very content with life.
As a youngster, (and I’m talking 13 years old) my dad encouraged me to dream big. He told me that I could accomplish anything …and that the best way to do this was subscribe to being a “free enterpriser” and having a positive attitude.
My dad also told me that anything was possible and I could BE whatever I wanted. He took me to an ‘own your own business’ seminar that was held here in Vancouver, BC. When down at this event, I spotted a little tiny press that printed ‘prestige business cards’. It really caught my eye.
Back in the day, we didn’t have all these inexpensive, screaming deal options for business cards like we do now, so being able to print something incredibly fancy with Gold Leaf like foil print was ultra special!
I was so excited about this business that I bought it with savings that I’d built from working at a local Dairy Queen.
I set the press up in my parent’s basement and proceeded to ‘tell’ everyone who had ears about my new venture.
I went on the meet some of the most interesting people… and because I was so enthusiastic and so young people were talking.
I was lucky enough to meet a fellow who was a top producer for Amway in our area. He invited me to many of his meetings… and I’m telling you these meeting were often in ‘standing room only’ halls.
Because he was “free enterprising” he was very impressed with me, so always made sure he introduced me to the crowds and told them what I did.
You would not believe the line ups I had in front of me waiting for me to take their orders!!
I did VERY, VERY well.
I truly believe that this all happened because of my enthusiasm and the fact I expected nothing less… after all my dad told me I could make anything happen if I was serious about success.
As time went on, I did sell my little press to get into marketing Wicker and Rattan when it was popular and started selling at ‘home parties’ similar to many other home businesses.
Again, I did very, very well…. And again expected nothing less.
When I was 18 I decided to buy a house. Everyone said “how on earth is an 18 year old going to be able to buy a house?”… particularly when I had only just graduated from high school.
I didn’t think there was anything ‘un-doable’… I just expected that I would buy a house and set the intention to do so.
Within a very short few months I did indeed find the cutest little house right in my own neighbourhood.
There were a few challenges in getting a mortgage approved, due to my age and obviously I had not built up a credit rating yet. My dad was self employed in Real Estate so he was not the prime candidate (even though he did well) to co-sign.
With a little research, I ended up finding an ingenious financial planner who was able to make me look worth more that I was.
At the end of the day I ended up with the house I chose and my goal was met!
At this point, the one hurdle I had was that, if truth be told couldn’t afford the mortgage comfortably and still ‘eat’… so this was a bit of a concern… so I set my mind to finding a room mate.
One night after pulling an afternoon shift at a hotel where I now worked as a Front office Manager (and yes… I was a Manager at 18… because I ‘wanted’ to be and knew I could) … (that’s another story in itself that is obviously based on my producing the right vibes)…. I popped into a local bar. (Did I say that with my outside voice?)
I live in a town that used to be very small… all of us ‘young ‘ens” used to congregate at a little hole in the wall pub… we knew everyone in there so it was quite safe… a bit like “Cheers”…) sorry I digress.
When I walked up to get a drink, I ran into a girlfriend who I had not seen for “donkey’s years”. She told me she was looking for a place to live in the area… and did I know or anyone who had a suite or needed a room mate?
I told her about my house and that I needed a roommate… and Bingo! Problem solved!
As time went on while at my ‘hotel job’ I received a couple of additional promotions and ended up being one of the catering managers.
It was a fun job, especially promoting weddings but after a few years of working every single weekend… planning the weddings of others, in the back of my mind… I kind of wanted a break. I knew if I didn’t make a change, I’d likely spend the rest of my life planning weddings for everyone else, but never my own!
At that time however, I was kind of married to my job and certainly couldn’t afford to be without it to be honest… so I was afraid to look elsewhere due to financial stability reasons.
Then… out of the blue one day, I had a bit of a “tiff” with the general manager (I was actually in the right to tell the truth) but she saw it differently and ‘canned my butt out of there’….
When the owner of the hotel heard, he was furious, so he called me into his office which was in a different location than the hotel. He was a very, very wealthy man who owned a number of restaurant chains as well as the hotel and had quite a conglomerate of successful organizations.
He suggested I take a few weeks off to have a ‘rest’ BUT… he reinstated my position at the hotel and gave me a date to return to my job. He also paid me a huge severance package that he told me to keep… even despite the fact he had given me my job back.
As I stayed home … on a well deserved break, I realized that I should use that time to find another job as working at the hotel just didn’t ‘feel’ right anymore … working the way I did, day in day out, week in week out at the busy catering job.
I had a few interviews and soon found another job in a completely different industry. It was at this new firm, an industrial equipment business that I met my husband.
(might I mention, I was not ‘hell bent’ on finding a husband. I have always enjoyed my own company… but it did linger in the back of my mind… that “one day it might be nice to hook up with someone”. (Just clarifying! )
My husband at the time had a long time girlfriend and while I had no intentions of trying to wiggle in… I thought he was an all round great guy and thought “hmmm… he’s a bit of ‘alright’ and a great attitude to boot”.
A couple of months later…’this handsome fellow’ told me he’d broken off his relationship with his girlfriend. He asked me out and we went on our first date. A little over a year later we were married!
We went on to do all sorts of exciting things together and life was great.
I ended up changing careers to work at a huge restaurant supply firm.
Previous to securing this position however, had a heck of a challenge ‘getting’ my foot in the door. You see, the moment I heard of this company, I had my sights set on working there.
After submitting application after application… I finally got an interview. Sadly, I didn’t get the job on my first interview, or my second… and I will admit it knocked my confidence a bit.
Refusing to quit trying, I began dropping in to say ‘hi’ (wink) to the manager often… at least once per month. I’m sure after a while he wondered if I was stalking him…
Thankfully after many attempts, I eventually got the job I’d been after.
During my tenure at that company I received a few promotions… but there was one particular position I wanted … and I just couldn’t seem to land it, despite trying my best and giving it my best effort.
This was definitely an ego buster… and I could tell there was a shift within me that didn’t feel quite as confident as I used to be.
Despite that … I managed quite well… and stuck it out.
I was starting to become a little frustrated at my lack of control … and my inability to get to where I wanted to be. I longed to work for myself but didn’t know what I would do… although somewhere in the back of my mind… I just knew that one fine day all the chips would fall into place.
Then… after work one evening, my husband were talking. He was feeling a bit overworked and underpaid and needed more work life balance, so we decided to start our own business… which was to go into competition with the heavy equipment firm he still worked at.
I know it sounds a little shady, but it was an industry he knew well and was a top producer for. I had some experience too. We decided that the only way to make this happen would be to go with the saying “start where you are, with what you have”…. which is what we did!
It was a long shot… and a hard one at that as we were now setting out to compete with one of the largest and most well established companies in our industry.
Nevertheless we did it and used the fear of failure in our favour to put the wind beneath our wings to forge ahead. We managed to save a small amount of money and went out and bought the necessary equipment, found a shop to rent (a tiny one at that) and made it happen.
I stayed at my “restaurant supply” job for a few months while my husband ran the business. Then over dinner one night ,we made a split second decision that I would quit my job and come and work with him as he was starting to get too busy to answer phones and be out on a job at the same time.
Naturally during this time I had already been doing all the paperwork for the company and had some experience in that industry due to working at the previous company where I met him.
Thing just sailed and we started hiring staff. We now both knew that we could do whatever we set our minds to and expressed gratitude every day.
As we grew, I could see the need for a bigger building but couldn’t really imagine ‘how’ we’d manage to find one.
One day, right out of the blue and during the exact time I was pondering our “space issues”, a realtor came walking in my office with a brochure advertising a large building in our area that was for sale.
It had a hefty price tag… but was perfect for our needs.
I said to my husband “let’s just go look at it for fun”… he said OK
When we saw the building we fell in love with it and immediately set out to find a way to make it happen.
I won’t go into all the details, but at the end of the day, we had this massive building complete with offices and much more… right downtown in the city in which we did most of our work.
During all of this time… we still lived at the home I purchased when I was 18. The house was super cute and cozy but it was a little small.
I always imagined putting a second floor on it. Not for any particular reason… we could have make do at that point as we had no children… but I had this perfect picture in my mind of a second floor with vaulted ceilings, river rock columns and lots of character.
When I think about it I used visualization back then… and still do today in order to get clear on my goals.
I suppose back then it was a pipe dream to be honest… until that was, I found was expecting my first surprise. (My beautiful daughter!)
At this time the necessity for more space was a little more pressing… so we hired an engineer to look at the structure of our home to see if the foundations were strong enough to allow us to build on top.
There are many details and a few challenges but we were able to get them resolved. At the end of it all, we not only added a second floor but we tripled the size of the house. Funnily enough… the house looks very close to what I imagined years before when I “dreamed” of expanding.
During this huge reno, we not only lived in the discomfort of construction, but we also worked full time. (More like double time!!)
My daughter was being taken care of by mom during the day, which was awesome… but I felt SO guilty. OMG… it was enough to kill me when I had to leave her each day and miss out on all her growth.
To add to this, I found I was now expecting my second surprise. (my beautiful son!) I couldn’t believe it! Joe’s arrival only added to my desire to come home to raise my own children and the urge was even more pressing. The problem was however, I could see no way out of working full time at the office but couldn’t get it out of my mind.
During all of these events, I think because of all the stress, hard work, perhaps a bit of post partum on my part… and … I believe a bit of a mid life on my husbands part due to the huge lifestyle changes… things just didn’t continue to work the way they did.
We grew apart and again there are many painful details (bloody awful if truth be told)… but our marriage failed and I found myself on my own with the kids.
At that stage of the gameI made the decision to sell my portion of the business to stay home with the kids but I had no idea how my then husband was going to manage to pay me out of the business as now it had grown to a good size.
I just decided that things would have to work out and even though I believed they would (one way or the other) I still felt horrendously crappy every single day.
Eventually he was able to find a way to pay me out… and I now had mydream now of being at home with the kids even though it certainly did not come about in the way I had imagined…
Looking back, I truly think things ‘could’ have worked out equally as well if we had done things differently and communicated with one and other. At the time though, I think we were both so run down that the eternal spark and upbeat energy we both normally would possessed in our mindset… just faded. We both put out the wrong signals, thought negatively and neither or us had the right attitude.
As I stayed at home, even though now with the kids, I was a complete train wreck. I used to wake up in the morning and think ‘oh Gosh not another day to go through.”… I was completely negative and completely depressed and even though I was home with the kids… I could not, for the life in me, imagine feeling better.
Eventually I made the decision that I HAD to snap out of it and learn to feel better… after all, what were the kids going to remember me as when they grew up?? A depressed mother who was no fun??
I also had to pull my self out of it for financial reasons too. Even though I did ‘well’ so to speak being paid out of the business, I was ok for a while but certainly I was NOT on a retirement plan by any stretch.
I started implementing a number of techniques into my daily life … all these things I came up with myself as well and later learned they are widely used. Funnily they worked!! and Ill share them in an upcoming post.
As time went by I continued to make it my mission to look for the bright side of life and began to feel better and better.
One morning I was out with the kids and ran into a friend who I had not seen for over 20 years. He told me was a top producer for a MLM business and showed me the opportunity. It was a juice product promoting wellbeing.
He did very well, and after he shared it with me, I decided to give it a whirl!
Because I was alone with the kids I couldn’t manage doing home parties, etc,. in order to promote it, so I decided to market this opportunity online.
This is what led me to where I am today.
While I knew nothing about Online Marketing… I decided to learn it… and set my intentions on doing so.
After a while and during my travels on the internet, I came across a personal development business opportunity.
Even though I was greatly improved to what I used to me… this particular Biz Opp. was just the ticket to improve my moral and mindset even further.
Hence this became my primary focus and my ‘real’ online business started to roll. Things were really turning around… but more importantly… so was I!
Since then I have branched out into becoming a Certified Life Coach as well as I spend most of my days training others to market online… regardless as to whether they join me in my business opportunity or not.
Deep inside, all along, I just knew things would work out if I was willing to allow the law of attraction to take the lead… and it has.
Now, last but not least… this is one of the more comical parts of the Law of Attraction being at work in my life:
Just before Christmas… 2011… I went out to my little guest house that I have behind my home to get my wrapping paper. (I don’t think I mentioned I had a little cottage in the back).
I store just about everything I don’t use on a regular basis in there. It was indeed “full o stuff” and stacked floor to ceiling Rubbermaid totes.
As I was in the cottage… I thought “oh… this is such a cute little place, too bad nobody enjoys it anymore…”
That was the end of that thought!
Later that day, I ran out on an errand… (Not thinking about the cottage)… but for “some reason” started thinking of a friend who I used to see often when I was with my husband.
Since my husband and I split, I have not seen this friend who I’ll call Jim for many years as he remained close to my husband while I was more or less ‘ousted’ out of that circle!
I really missed him to tell you the truth and I thought to myself… “hmm I’d love to run into Jim one day and have a good chat”.
— End of thought—-
Later that very day, (evening actually) my best friend Julie and I decided to take our kids downtown to see the Christmas lights. As she was driving my phone rang but I didn’t recognize the number.
When I answered the phone it was “Jim”… !!!!
It had been six years since I spoke to him… and had only thought of him a few hours earlier!
He said “hey Jayne… it’s Jim… how are you”.
You could have knocked me over with a feather!!
After a few moments of chatting… he said “you know I’ve really been thinking about you a lot lately… lets get together and get caught up”.
Then he said “the real reason I’m phoning you this minute however is because I have a friend who is in desperate need for a place to stay for a few months… is your cottage available by any chance??”
Coincidence??? Or not???
I think not!
I truly believe that anything you approach with the right mindset, the Law of Attraction with help you manifest what ever it is you think about.
Some of these examples may have been due to hard work and persevering …but certainly not all of them.
Most things in my life would hot have occurred as in many cases I had odds against me but I think because I remained open… didn’t overthink things and decided to have a little faith… things just worked.
Furthermore, I know it’s the Law of Attraction at work and it can work for you too… no matter how you feel or how much you ‘can’t see’ how it might.
When using the Law of Attraction, just respect and expect. Don’t worry about the details. If you set your intentions knowing that things can be bent and molded into shape to make it happen, you don’t have to worry about the ‘how’s or why’s.
Leave everything up to the Law of Attraction and things WILL work out if you have the right attitude even if sometimes in very mysterious ways!
What do you think? Do you block possibilities without realizing it… or do you stay open and optimistic?
Please leave me a comment below and/or share your experiences with the Law of Attraction! I’d love to hear them all!