The Profound Effects of Just One Thing…

by Jayne Kopp on February 18, 2012

one thing, one amazing thing

Have you ever given any thought to the fact that just one thing can profoundly affect your life?

It’s true… and it’s something I’d like to discuss today.

Naturally, ‘the thing’ could be as  different for all of us as are the results and consequences it brings about.   If  you’re unclear as to what’s running through my tiny mind… please allow me to explain! ;-) :

The one thing (sorry) ;-) … I’ve learned through  coaching is that each and every one of us, at one time or another experiences something to shape our lives; sometimes “it” can ‘break us’… and set us on a slippery slope of hell… or it can ‘make us’..  and completely change our lives for the better… usually when we least expect it.

I’ve often heard people say that “one thing severely altered their life and totally set them back” … but I’ve also heard amazing stories as well… from from others who shared how “just one thing  changed the course of their life in ways they would have never imagined”. 

This morning I spoke with a lady who has struggled like mad to build her business… but finally had a breakthrough and feels so much better that she’s almost walking on air!

A few months ago however, she questioned her decision to become an entrepreneur in the first place and almost threw in the towel all together.

You see… entrepreneurialism is a new(ish) experience for her.  In previous years, she was always very satisfied climbing the corporate ladder and working her high paying managerial  job of 15 years.

Then, last year, her company downsized… and eliminated  positions starting in higher management.  Sadly, she was one of the first to go.

Naturally she was devastated and started frantically applying elsewhere.

As each interview came and went, and she learned she was not the successful candidate, she resented the fact that she had always been taught the only way to get ahead in life was  to complete her education, get a good job… and  after that she’d live happily ever after.

Obviously… that wasn’t the case for her so  when she started  her business venture… she was a little out of her comfort zone  as she had never before considered “creating her own economy”.

She realized the way she was taught had  indeed shaped her life… but certainly had not prepared her for her current set of circumstances.

As I was tidying up the ‘bedlum’ after dropping the kids off at school, I was thinking about her situation and the one thing in my own life that shaped me and set me worlds apart from her.

I thought back to when I was 14 years of age when my dad asked me to attend an ‘own your own business’ seminar here in Vancouver.

I can remember thinking:  “What?? Own your own business seminar?  Are you kidding me?  I’m only 14!”

In any event, I went with him.  As we drove in the car, he explained to me that being an entrepreneur and learning the skills to be self sufficient would be the one thing in life that could keep me afloat above anything else if I played my cards right.

He also shared that the world is our oyster and if we are willing to embrace it, the possibilities are endless.

That conversation was something that always stuck with me, formed my belief system, and helped me to see the world through rose coloured glasses…. and for that I am very grateful.

With that said, “one thing”  can always  knock you on your proverbial bottom too … when you least expect it!

As some of you may know already, when I was in my mid 30’s I built a  successful offline business with my husband and life was awesome until our marriage failed and just about killed me in the process

After spending a good 8 months playing my violin, curled up in the fetal position, I thought back to my dad’s advice and decided to pull myself together and snap out of it and take control of life again.

I chose to search the internet for income earning solutions as well as a way to rebuild my self esteem.  After kissing many toads I came across the business opportunity that set me on a whole new uplifting and fulfilling path.

Admittedly I encountered my share roadblocks and challenges, but eventually I found that with the right attitude that one thing leads to another… and it did… & thankfully the big wheel started turning.

Now you see, if I had decided to give up… or completely discount my own personal power, I would have never experienced some of the wonderful turning points and opportunities that presented themselves along the way.

I truly believe that for anybody can excel and create positive results regardless of their situation as long as they keep an open mind and don’t quit.  It only takes ‘one thing’ to turn things around again… and you just never know what ‘it’ will be… and eventually ‘something’ will  ‘just happen’  or come into their life and  cause all the chips to fall into place.

This isn’t something I’ve only  just thought about either….

Throughout life, I have heard many stories about people who in some cases, met someone new,  out of the blue who helped them transform their life.

I’ve also heard of folks who found answers to their problems by reading a book, attending a seminar, or hearing a quote that affected them in a profound manner… enough to give them a light bulb moment to alter their own direction and cause them to make incredible changes for the better.

It also could be just finding ‘something’ that works for you… by stepping out of the dotted line and taking a chance on something unusual.

 Since running this blog I have also met many people who have struggled in life due to carrying baggage that should have been ‘put down’ years ago. 

Funnily I have a handful of ridiculously popular posts that I wrote some time ago pertaining to holding grudges, forgiving others, self forgiveness and embracing the power of apology.

On more than one occasion I’ve been told that ‘something’ within these posts has struck a cord that has caused them to take the step to reach out and patch things up with others, or has helped them deal with, or get the help to deal with their own emotions.

Sounds crazy doesn’t it …that people (and I’ve been there) sometimes just need to hear, read, or see ‘one thing’ that can be the answer … or just what they need to set them free?

These are just a few examples of my own… but I’m sure you’ve likely heard people say:

“Oh if I could just deal with this ‘one thing’ I’d be happy” or “there’s just one thing that holds me back from feeling stress free”… etc, etc, etc,

So you see, sometimes in life…  something simple can set you on a road to freedom, personally, financially or otherwise… it’s just a matter to of ‘knowing’ believing and keeping going that has a way of making things work out.

Bear in mind however, that whatever you are struggling with… whether it is growing a business or just living a fulfilling life… things do work differently for some that they do for others

My advice is always to remember to keep your chin up.… and even if you fall and occasionally fear failure… just know that eventually with the right attitude and the tenacity to keep on trucking… you can succeed.

More often than not, you will run across one amazing thing that will lift you up and put the wind beneath your wings to take you to a place in your life that you may have never thought possible.

I sincerely hope this post might be the one thing  that may  lift you and help you to remain open to YOUR own possibilities and value if you felt to be lagging. 

Can you share ‘one amazing thing’ that helped you make positive life changes?

{ 22 comments… read them below or add one }

JosephJYoung March 2, 2012 at 7:33 am

Hi Jayne,
Was thinking about what we often have to go through in order to arrive at that one thing that will cause the wheels to start turning. This is where things can get adventurous if we are willing to go the distance. I have said many times, “Why am I doing this?” not realizing how close i was to victory.



Jayne Kopp March 5, 2012 at 7:43 pm

Hi Joe… I agree that if we are indeed willing to go the distance, each and every day is the perfect opportunity to stumble across the ‘one thing’. I like to live full of expectation as you never know what is around the corner. As you say… Victory just might be there and jump out and say ‘boo’ :-)

Thanks for stopping by.



Emmanuel Olonade February 27, 2012 at 4:37 am

Hello Jayne,
I agree with virtually all you mentioned here. If a guy falls sick it can easily be traced to a particular activity he has always indulged himself in and if it’s the other way round, if he just got promoted at his workplace or got a break in business, it can usually be attributed to a particular activity or trait in him.

Thanks for sharing Jayne,
Emmanuel Olonade


Jayne Kopp February 29, 2012 at 10:13 am

Hi Emmanuel, the “one thing” can be anything… good or bad. In business often it only takes one thing to propel you to the next level too… or can cause you to blow it completely! (lets focus on the positives! ) :-)
Thanks for stopping by.



Lilach Bullock February 27, 2012 at 1:14 am

Hi Jayne – awesome post:)

I completely agree – people think they need to make so many changes in their lives but really you only need to change one thing at a time and that one thing can be life changing.

I’ve been putting off for a long time my health kick… I didn’t think I had the time to go to the gym every day for 1.5 hours but I finally decided to go for it and invest some time in me… I have to say, whilst it’s only been a month now I’m loving it. I feel fantastic and in that timeframe my turnover has doubled… whether it’s coincidental I don’t know my business has been growing every month but what I do know is I feel fantastic and am so pleased that I’m making this change in my life:)


Jayne Kopp February 29, 2012 at 10:16 am

Hi Lilach, Thanks for your awesome comment. Your business has done well due to a series of ‘things’ but likely there was an invisible turning point when things started to take off. It could have been just one post that broke the barrier between being where you were… to where you are. You may have written something that really ‘grabbed’ a number of people… and was shared to others… and those ‘new’ readers subscribed… and shared some more….

point is… it may have been just one action that really got the wheels turning.

I am pleased you are rocking it both at the gym and in business!! Good for you!! Keep it up.




Jamella Biegel February 24, 2012 at 6:30 pm

Hi Jayne,

How awesome for you to be exposed to the concept of being an entrepreneur at such an early age. My parents were big on education, so I thought the only way to be successful was to go to college and get a job. I did that, and I have a good job. But it’s not enough. I want to build wealth for me and my family, not for someone else.

I really enjoyed reading this post. Thanks so much for sharing.


Jayne Kopp February 29, 2012 at 10:18 am

HI Jamella, I do feel I’m lucky in so many ways but the ‘entrepreneurial spirit’ really formed the ‘me’ I am today.

There is no wrong way… I believe we do all need to take different paths through life. your good job is a great stepping stone to sustain you while you build your awesome business!



Tosin February 24, 2012 at 2:31 pm

Hi Jayne,

Excellent post! Your posts has got to be one of the most exhaustive on the web. It’s obvious you put alot of time and efforts into these posts. Great job!

Yeah it is true that one thing could alter our entire existence. Also sometimes one event could definitely put a meeting to all the thing ,a logical point where some major actions would be taken.

My turning point period in business comes after reading Magnetic Sponsoring. GReat book!

Thanks for shariing


Jayne Kopp February 29, 2012 at 10:20 am

Hi Tosin, thanks so much for your lovely comment.

Yes Magnetic Sponsoring is such a ‘simple’ program/ebook… that says to much… and explains so much in such a common sense way. It helps you drill down to where your focus needs to be without the bells and whistles.

I am so glad you read it Tosin! :-) Otherwise you may not be here and I would have never met you!!



Alan Cheng February 24, 2012 at 6:59 am

Hi Jayne,

You’re very lucky to have such a father that would support you in starting your own business. Normally fathers tell the kids to study hard and get a stable job!

If there was one thing that really changed my life, it was when I got made redundant and worked for an insurance company.

The company’s training was amazing. I learned how to sell, stay positive and why relationships matter. A normal office job don’t teach you those things.


Jayne Kopp February 29, 2012 at 10:22 am

Hi Alan, isn’t that just great!! I love companies who instil positive training in their employees to arm them for life. I had the pleasure of working for a similar company in my younger days too.

I attribute many ‘one time’ experiences to that company also… as well as having my dad inspire me. Yes I am lucky to have been pointed in this direction. Things make us who we are!




Rebecca Reddy February 22, 2012 at 9:36 pm

 I think we all resonate with the ‘one thing’ really is your attitude of ” ‘knowing’ believing and keeping going that has a way of making things work out.” Certain specific opportunities come and go, but what sustains us is our mindset. As to your specific question I would answer thus: The one tragedy/opportunity that broke and made me was my TBI in 2003 and this past 10 years of rebuilding:)


Jayne Kopp February 29, 2012 at 10:32 am

HI Rebecca… I think I’m losing it.. I could have sworn I responded to your comment last week. :-|

Belief is a HUGE factor in anything… and I do have drafts in place to post in the not too distant future. That goes for anyone.

I am thinking a TBI is a traumatic brain injury? Good grief girl. I’m sorry to hear that… it seems however you have used that ‘one thing’ to create awesome change. I wish you all the best!



Ankesh February 22, 2012 at 2:13 am

Hi Jayne;
Thanks for this great post. I agree with much of what you said. There are moments and decisions in life that have profound impact on what follows. But I’ve found that there are always ups and downs in life. One thing may set us on the right path but reaching the success is usually the result of many other thing and decisions. Only in retrospect do we recognize the point where we started on the path that brought us to where we are.

The way i see it, we should treat every – thing moment or decision – as if it is The One. Later on, we may look back and recognize the thing that changed our life and raise a glass to celebrate it, but practically there is not much point in thinking about it now.

Of course it could be that, I think this way now only because I haven’t encountered my ‘one thing’ yet and would sing a different tune altogether once I have.


Jayne Kopp February 29, 2012 at 10:35 am

Hi Ankesh… beautifully put when you say “in retrospect do we recognize the point where we started on the path that brought us to where we are”.

I also am right there with you Ankesh… we should look at everything as the ‘one thing’…. because ‘one thing’ always leads to another. :-) I love to drill down though… it gives me a great appreciation looking aback at the many stepping stones.

Your One thing just might happen today…. here’s to living w ith eyes wide open!



Ilka Flood February 21, 2012 at 4:22 pm

Hi Jayne,

Wow, another power-packed and very inspirational post!

The “one thing” (I can’t help but chuckle about it and you know why) can really make or break you. Sometimes it comes more than once in your life. That’s when you are very lucky. Sometimes it doesn’t come at all or so you think because you haven’t had an open mind and closed your eyes to the opportunity that could have set you free.

So always have an open mind, and open heart and go through life with your eyes wide open and you’ll be alright.

Thanks for sharing your great thoughts!



Jayne Kopp February 22, 2012 at 2:03 pm

LOL Ilka… I am not sure if my mind was to wander… or not… but if great minds think alike like ours seem to…. I’ll be back after my cold shower! ;-)

On a serious note… that’s what I’ve always said… ‘eyes wide open’ and keep on truckin… and as you say, sometimes more than one thing will happen but it’ll all contribute to the end result.

Something we all need to remind ourselves of once in a while. …. (like for me today… for instance)….

talk soon



Kesha Brown February 20, 2012 at 10:41 pm

You know what Jayne? The ‘one thing’ (I couldn’t resist!) that I love about you is you always bring goodness in your posts!

There will always be that one thing that can make or break us and I think it’s about our perspective (which I also recall you writing a post about) on the matter.

The best advice I too think that people will take away from this is exactly what you said: “with the right attitude and the tenacity to keep on trucking… you can succeed.” Sharing!



Jayne Kopp February 22, 2012 at 2:00 pm

HI Kesha, you sure have a way of making me feel over the moon. With that said, LOL… you should read my next post… perhaps not so pink and frilly… as I like to call it.

It really does boil down to tenacity… and more blinking tenacity… but eventually things just come… sometimes keeping going is the one thing we all need to do on some days!

Lovely to see you my friend.



Brenda W. Scott February 20, 2012 at 3:22 am

I agree! It’s usually that one thing that change your life. Only ONE thing, but it is EVERYTHING.


Jayne Kopp February 29, 2012 at 10:36 am

Hi Brenda… you are right ‘everything’ is connected but often there is one thing that causes us to take certain paths but I do agree we need to always be open.




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